My son wont accept help

Sorry this sounds so hard. So would you say motivation is the problem? Is he working?

Would he be at all interested in a peer support group for depression, rather than for autism?

https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/peer-support-directory/

I hope other parents can contribute here. If you add 'tags' to the post, it may be easier to find.

Hi Cassandro, David won't accept help for autism or depression. He does has a job,but the placement is breaking down as he won't get out of bed to attend. He won't see his GP and when his social worker visited yesterday, he ran off.

thanks for your reply, I really appreciate it 

I'm still wondering why he's resisting the diagnosis or help. Could it be that he is ashamed of it? Or does he not relate the help offered to the way he thinks of his life problems? Or does he just not get on with any of the professionals?

I don't know anything about you, your son, or your relationship, but I am autistic. Maybe he's afraid of the future, or can't visualise a good one for himself. As his mum you're probably already doing this, but can you help him visualise a realistic future that he would like?

Hi Louise, this is just a thought and you may of already tried this but, if he wants to go to uni, talk about which subject he would want to study, ask questions about it like, why he wants to study this subject, engage in a positive way about it and then suggest that he can get some help to attend uni. This may mean sitting GCSE or A-Levels but its a positive start to accepting help for something he wants to achieve.

Liz x

Thanks!  Xxx

That's great ^^ hope so too! He's welcome to ping me into any thread he may start if he likes (@Emma) 

I too have noticed that you have to fight a lot harder for support once you hit adulthood, unfortunately autism is still something very much associated with children in the general public consciousness. :/ People often don't seem to realise that autistic kids grow up into still-autistic adults.

Definitely ask about a DEA! Good luck to you both x 

That's great ^^ hope so too! He's welcome to ping me into any thread he may start if he likes (@Emma) 

I too have noticed that you have to fight a lot harder for support once you hit adulthood, unfortunately autism is still something very much associated with children in the general public consciousness. :/ People often don't seem to realise that autistic kids grow up into still-autistic adults.

Definitely ask about a DEA! Good luck to you both x 

Thanks!  Xxx