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Giving up

midnightescape

Has anyone just felt like they're sick of trying so hard all the time? 

I just feel like this world is too difficult to navigate and I actually can't cope much longer. 

I have far too many problems to list them all here but I feel like my life is going to continue in this cycle because I'm not in the right environment and I don't get the right support. 

I was diagnosed at 22 so I've never had any support. I recently contacted the organisation that diagnosed me and two weeks later I'm still waiting for a response. I don't understand why even getting help needs to be so difficult. I feel like I'm on an emotional rollercoaster, there are too many things that affect my mood which I have no control over. 

A friend of mine committed suicide almost 18 months ago and I feel like the reason we were so close is because we were so similar and had similar issues. I miss her sooo much it hurts, I don't cry often but I do cry when I think about her. She suffered from anorexia and I am now being referred to some kind of specialist to see if I have an eating disorder. I just feel like it is all a bit too much and I'm not sure what to do next. 

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  • midnightescape said:
    Has anyone just felt like they're sick of trying so hard all the time? 

    Yes, absolutely, and think we all go through those times.

    I’m very sorry to hear about your friend, and I can see how her loss has been very difficult for you. Grief is a long process, and we never truly get over the loss of those that meant something to us, but bereavement counselling can help.

    You sound as though you are struggling and probably overwhelmed with all of these separate issues you are having to deal with, but you aren’t getting any support. Have you spoken to your GP about how you are feeling? I think it’s important that you do let them know because they should be able to arrange some support for you as a matter of urgency. After all, there are services that can help you with each of your issues. It may also be that your GP has to refer you to autism services, as opposed to you being able to access some help by you contacting the organisation that diagnosed you directly. Keep in touch with other people too - I find that using this forum alone helps me to cope with the difficulties in my life.

    Do you have friends and/or family that can support you at this time? If you get really desperate then please tell someone, even if you use a service like the Samaritans. There is always someone who will be willing to listen and help. 

    I do hope you get the support you need and you begin to feel better soon. 

  • in reply to NAS36609

     

    Hi, 

    Thanks for your response :) 

    I've just got back from a weekend staying with a friend so that has helped. 

    I think really I never actually grieved when she died which is probably why I find it difficult. I haven't spoke about my friend that much. I tried speaking to my friend about it earlier but I got the impression she wasn't really listening. Sometimes I think it's best just not to say anything. I tend to be the person people go to for advice but very few people actually give me advice. I've had counselling so many times to try and deal with so many issues I just find it slightly frustrating as if I'm stuck in a revolving door. That's probably an awful thing to say but that in itself makes me feel bad about myself. 

    No, I did see my GP last week about other issues to do with food/weight management but it didn't occur to mention the mental health. He's lovely but he does offer antidepressants as if they're smarties. I was always told to contact the people who diagnosed me it never actually occurred to me to ask the GP for help as daft as it sounds. I'm still awaiting a response from the psychologist which is rather frustrating. How long does it really take to respond to an email? 

    Unfortunately I don't come from a supportive or helpful family. They are very money orientated and morally bankrupt. I don't speak to many of them and I certainly can't trust or rely on any of them. I do have friends but they have their own problems so I don't want to burden them too much. One has had a cancer scare so my problems seem trivial in comparison to that. 

    Thanks again for replying. 

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  • in reply to NAS36609

     

    Hi, 

    Thanks for your response :) 

    I've just got back from a weekend staying with a friend so that has helped. 

    I think really I never actually grieved when she died which is probably why I find it difficult. I haven't spoke about my friend that much. I tried speaking to my friend about it earlier but I got the impression she wasn't really listening. Sometimes I think it's best just not to say anything. I tend to be the person people go to for advice but very few people actually give me advice. I've had counselling so many times to try and deal with so many issues I just find it slightly frustrating as if I'm stuck in a revolving door. That's probably an awful thing to say but that in itself makes me feel bad about myself. 

    No, I did see my GP last week about other issues to do with food/weight management but it didn't occur to mention the mental health. He's lovely but he does offer antidepressants as if they're smarties. I was always told to contact the people who diagnosed me it never actually occurred to me to ask the GP for help as daft as it sounds. I'm still awaiting a response from the psychologist which is rather frustrating. How long does it really take to respond to an email? 

    Unfortunately I don't come from a supportive or helpful family. They are very money orientated and morally bankrupt. I don't speak to many of them and I certainly can't trust or rely on any of them. I do have friends but they have their own problems so I don't want to burden them too much. One has had a cancer scare so my problems seem trivial in comparison to that. 

    Thanks again for replying. 

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