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Not understanding how I feel? - Part 2; What others interpret

Goatworshiper

I was just wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences?

Whilst at work this afternoon a coleague asked how I was and said I look miserable, whilst I was waiting for a coffee. I was just feeling normal. So I just said I was fine, bit tired and needing some caffine. The coleague is newish and doesnt know me well, he seems like a nice friendly guy.

In another job, I can remember someone saying I looked miserable and unaproachable. It seems to be a reoccuring theme.

Im now not sure if this is "anxeity" and I just don't recognise it. I just don't really understand feelings in someways. 

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  • Without wishing to drift off Goatworshiper's original thread, haven't you just proved that smilies don't work for people on the spectrum (or for that matter Social Stories, until you've learned them !!!).

    "Biting your tongue" is an action of restraint on your tongue because you know that you are using your tongue falsely. Hence "tongue in cheek", precisely where you'd bite it. Double metaphor.

    This is where having Roget's Thesaurus close at hand is a useful tool for people on the spectrum. It lists other meanings, and helps you work out what the NTs are really on about.

    Hence "tongue in cheek" appears in 616.5 along with words like "insincerity" and in 616.32 "insincere". It definately doesn't mean "only joking".

    The problem is with smilies is that some of them attempt to symbolise language/metaphor rather than emotion. A smiley is a smiling face (though it can also indicate unprescribed medication!). What is a tongue hanging out to one side? Your interpretation may not be anone else's.

    Clear demonstration why smiley's can be confusing to people on the spectrum, as well as a warning to those well intentioned social services/psychology people who think little pictures will help us socially integrate. It might seem sensible to NTs........

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  • Without wishing to drift off Goatworshiper's original thread, haven't you just proved that smilies don't work for people on the spectrum (or for that matter Social Stories, until you've learned them !!!).

    "Biting your tongue" is an action of restraint on your tongue because you know that you are using your tongue falsely. Hence "tongue in cheek", precisely where you'd bite it. Double metaphor.

    This is where having Roget's Thesaurus close at hand is a useful tool for people on the spectrum. It lists other meanings, and helps you work out what the NTs are really on about.

    Hence "tongue in cheek" appears in 616.5 along with words like "insincerity" and in 616.32 "insincere". It definately doesn't mean "only joking".

    The problem is with smilies is that some of them attempt to symbolise language/metaphor rather than emotion. A smiley is a smiling face (though it can also indicate unprescribed medication!). What is a tongue hanging out to one side? Your interpretation may not be anone else's.

    Clear demonstration why smiley's can be confusing to people on the spectrum, as well as a warning to those well intentioned social services/psychology people who think little pictures will help us socially integrate. It might seem sensible to NTs........

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