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Not understanding how I feel? - Part 2; What others interpret

Goatworshiper

I was just wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences?

Whilst at work this afternoon a coleague asked how I was and said I look miserable, whilst I was waiting for a coffee. I was just feeling normal. So I just said I was fine, bit tired and needing some caffine. The coleague is newish and doesnt know me well, he seems like a nice friendly guy.

In another job, I can remember someone saying I looked miserable and unaproachable. It seems to be a reoccuring theme.

Im now not sure if this is "anxeity" and I just don't recognise it. I just don't really understand feelings in someways. 

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  • Of course fixed facial expression is a diagnostic (Asperger 1944 cited by Attwood "his facial expressions were sparse and rigid"). Attwood (The Complete etc p261) continues: "a flat facial expression that lacks tone and subtle movement can also make the person appear sad".

    Perhaps it means "face currently out of action while busy with important matters". We surely don't have to have a dynamic face if we aren't engaging in endless NT conversations.

    But I also wonder if the neutral expression is a safe resort in reponse to being constantly criticised for having the wrong facial expression. I was always smiling when I shouldn't or scowling or anything but the facial expression I was supposed to have. Perhaps neutral is a safer option.

    Oh and smilies - wasn't there another thread on that? - I don't understand them. What exactly does tongue out to one side mean?

    And yes Goatworshiper, I think you've got the right idea.

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  • Of course fixed facial expression is a diagnostic (Asperger 1944 cited by Attwood "his facial expressions were sparse and rigid"). Attwood (The Complete etc p261) continues: "a flat facial expression that lacks tone and subtle movement can also make the person appear sad".

    Perhaps it means "face currently out of action while busy with important matters". We surely don't have to have a dynamic face if we aren't engaging in endless NT conversations.

    But I also wonder if the neutral expression is a safe resort in reponse to being constantly criticised for having the wrong facial expression. I was always smiling when I shouldn't or scowling or anything but the facial expression I was supposed to have. Perhaps neutral is a safer option.

    Oh and smilies - wasn't there another thread on that? - I don't understand them. What exactly does tongue out to one side mean?

    And yes Goatworshiper, I think you've got the right idea.

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