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Not understanding how I feel? - Part 2; What others interpret

Goatworshiper

I was just wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences?

Whilst at work this afternoon a coleague asked how I was and said I look miserable, whilst I was waiting for a coffee. I was just feeling normal. So I just said I was fine, bit tired and needing some caffine. The coleague is newish and doesnt know me well, he seems like a nice friendly guy.

In another job, I can remember someone saying I looked miserable and unaproachable. It seems to be a reoccuring theme.

Im now not sure if this is "anxeity" and I just don't recognise it. I just don't really understand feelings in someways. 

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  • Me too - people perceive I'm looking unhappy when just absorbed in my thoughts.

    But bear in mind this is a typical opening line for a neurotypical. They feel a compulsion to engage in conversation, and if it wasn't a comment on how you look, it would be the weather, or the football on the telly last night, or some TV reality show. 

    We probably tend to forget, as we are quite content in our own thoughts, that the notion of having peace and quiet is alien to most NTs. They have to be chatting pointlessly all the time or they feel useless.

    I was at a talk on autism last night - a very good talk- but the social bit afterwards was so impossible for me. This was a parents group, and like all NTs (but autistically affected by proxy through their children) they all congregate for complex chatting to which I've no way in....notwithstanding I find the clamour of collective chat unbearable. I'm left wondering if they really comprehend their ASD children enough.

    Maybe next time you are asked why you are looking miserable just smile and thank the person for their interests. And then see if a bit of convo flows from it....enough to satisfy their craving but no more than you are comfortable with.

    Witterring is their disability.....

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  • Me too - people perceive I'm looking unhappy when just absorbed in my thoughts.

    But bear in mind this is a typical opening line for a neurotypical. They feel a compulsion to engage in conversation, and if it wasn't a comment on how you look, it would be the weather, or the football on the telly last night, or some TV reality show. 

    We probably tend to forget, as we are quite content in our own thoughts, that the notion of having peace and quiet is alien to most NTs. They have to be chatting pointlessly all the time or they feel useless.

    I was at a talk on autism last night - a very good talk- but the social bit afterwards was so impossible for me. This was a parents group, and like all NTs (but autistically affected by proxy through their children) they all congregate for complex chatting to which I've no way in....notwithstanding I find the clamour of collective chat unbearable. I'm left wondering if they really comprehend their ASD children enough.

    Maybe next time you are asked why you are looking miserable just smile and thank the person for their interests. And then see if a bit of convo flows from it....enough to satisfy their craving but no more than you are comfortable with.

    Witterring is their disability.....

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