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ASD and connecting with people

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I am a 24 year old female who was diagnosed with mild ASD 12 years ago. 

I have a fiancé who I’ve been with for 4 years and are getting married next year! We have an amazing relationship and I feel very close to him. I am also very close with my mum, dad and sister but that’s where it stops! I am currently working 2 days a week but have already backed away from my colleges there and am feeling very awkward around them! I also struggle to keep on top of my work! (I fiand having to organise things very stressful and confusing) I have been in and out of different jobs since I was 16 as I can’t hold down a job for long at all! I also can’t seem to maintain friends, I begin to make friends but then something happens and I can’t carry on building the friendship! This has been the same my whole life apart from one girl who I managed to be friends with for about 10 years. 

I seem to have a block when it comes to building friendships! I just don’t ever feel connected to anyone really, does anyone else experience this? Do you have any tips to help me? Also does anyone experience the same as me with work? It’s really starting to bug me!

thanks!

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  • I'm sorry you are having problems with this, what type of work so you do? Is every one else also part time or are they all full time? The reason I ask is that if they are all full time even NT's have a problem fitting in when they are the only one that part time or agency.

    I did manage to hold down the same job for 2 Decades. The way I managed was i became the best at my job and I didn't care what anyone thought of me. I have never been able to make friends so I stopped trying. 

  • in reply to Song

    I work in a pre school, some staff do full time and some only do a day or two! Everyone seems to be friends and I just feel like I’m on the outside looking in! I don’t quite know how to be involved, I just feel different to everyone. I say to myself just get on with work and don’t worry about trying to fit in but I’m even struggling with the organisation and paper work that’s involved.... I just feel I’ve completely switched off again. 

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  • in reply to Song

    I work in a pre school, some staff do full time and some only do a day or two! Everyone seems to be friends and I just feel like I’m on the outside looking in! I don’t quite know how to be involved, I just feel different to everyone. I say to myself just get on with work and don’t worry about trying to fit in but I’m even struggling with the organisation and paper work that’s involved.... I just feel I’ve completely switched off again. 

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