I started a new job last Monday, and after a very frank review with manager on Friday afternoon I'm considering quitting after only a week.
The basic theme of the review was that I'm not showing an aptitude for the work and not engaging with the clients well enough.
I will start by explaining some of my background and situation.
I, unsurprisingly have had long gaps in my employment and need money desperately. And I cannot be choosy! So obvious route is finding paid employment. Any paid job!!!!!
Other routes are trying for more benefits. One debt advisor suggested I apply for PIP. The next three professional advisors ( same week) laughed at the suggestion. Saying that my social skills problems are minisule compared to some people they deal with.
I have and had multiple advisors giving me all types of contradictory advice.
In applying for this job, one of my employment advisors actually changed my answers.
For confidentiality reasons I will not give specific details but the job is full time at the minimum wage and involves supporting people with complex physical/mental needs. Over the past twenty years I've been involved in doing this type of work for family and neighbors, so I am familiar with the issues and can emphasize with most autistics and their problems.
The problems are that I'm not showing enough enthusiasm and the will to get involved in specific tasks while shadowing existing workers. I am too reserved.
And the end of week review was very very negative.
Should I quit? Or turn up tomorrow morning and carry on ?
At the moment I'm intending to continue and apply for other jobs simultaneously. Just doing application for work at local poundstrechter.
I really understand you.
I struggle in the workplace a lot.
Do not quit.
The worse that can happen is that they will let you go. Never leave yourself. That should help with the benefits applications.
You need to ask for reasonable adjustments.
Contact the Access to Work, the Government scheme.
You will need a workplace assessment.
You also need to complain about the people who pushed you to lie to the organizations. Write and send complaints.
Put in a grievance and/or go to the Employment Tribunal.
But do not quit, even if you are giving up. I am not saying that you should carry on being miserable. Simply go there and do nothing if you cannot do anything. No one can force you to do more than you are comfortable to do.
Do not worry about the reviews. They mean nothing.
And also keep applying for all the available benefits.
The job may be making me miserable. But I had some good news financially.
The job centre gave me a monthly bus pass worth £88.
The lying employment agency advisor gave me £30 worth of gift vouchers to help with buying work clothes.
The city council approved my application for discretionary housing payment ( DHP). And sent a cheque for over £800 to my landlord, wiping out my rent arrears.
I have been following your posts for a while. To me you seem to be a nice man.
It is so unfair that you have to go through all this nonsense.
It is really good that financially your situation is improving.
Please do not mask your hidden disabilities. It is exhausting. You will lose yourself. Will become miserable and won't enjoy life. I know this from my experience. It is not worth it.
Always be yourself and only do what you are comfortable to do and learn to say NO, if you are not comfortable or do not want to do something. You are the most important to yourself.
Please always think about yourself.
Robert how long will you have to shadow? You are happy that you will be ok when you are not shadowing aren't you? That being the case i would stay on.
're the answer changing advisor, I would have to report them to some one. They are not doing their job and are ultimately putting you at risk.
That's the kind of work I do. I think a review after just one week is more than a bit premature! It can take people a long time to settle into a job like that. There's a huge amount to learn - even if you've had some experience - and it takes a while to get used to the client group. In my current job, which I started last September, I was only in role for a couple of weeks when I decided it wasn't for me. It was a change of client group to working with purely autistic people, and I missed some of the other people I used to work with. I applied for a couple of other jobs and had interviews for them. I even got offered one. But it came at a time when I was beginning to settle a bit more. I was getting more used to working with the clients, and getting to know them. I'm now glad I didn't leave. 8 months down the line, I'm properly settled.
I think they really need to give you a bit more of a chance with it. They don't sound very helpful. Rather than telling you what you're not doing it would be better for them to offer to help you more in role.
Have you told them you have ASC? The employment adviser who ordered you to lie is a disgrace. Sounds like they were more interested in hitting performance targets rather than helping you to find a suitable role.
This is what NTs don't understand about our lives. Everything is made more difficult for us because of the way they automatically treat us, without even realising why they are doing it.
Why is your manager expecting you to be perfect when you are only being paid minimum wage, anyway? That's totally ridiculous. It sounds as if you are in training, if you are just shadowing other workers. It is unreasonable to criticise you after only one week. Being reserved shouldn't be criticised. If you were failing to do as you were asked, that would be one thing, but they seem to be assuming that you should know exactly what you should be doing when you obviously haven't been told.
Try to find some relief in the fact that you are drawing a salary right now and that you are applying for other work, so you will soon be able to take charge of your own situation and have the option of leaving.
Make sure you disclose your disability and ask for reasonable adjustments as necessary. That will make them think twice before they give you another bad review or fire you. Then at least you will keep getting the salary that you need.
Ask exactly what you can do differently that will result in better reviews. Ask for it in writing, perhaps in the form of a checklist, and then you can tick off the items on the list as you accomplish them. Then they will have a difficult time giving you a bad review again. Get everything in writing or record everything.
I know how it is to get an unfair negative review. You shouldn't have to put up with that kind of treatment, and, from my own experience, I am almost certain it arises from the fact that you are on the spectrum and your colleagues have picked up on the fact that you are different and vulnerable, even if you haven't disclosed your condition.
Better neurotypical for better job well .
You finally replied outside of your own Threads!
Good on you, very much.
Please reply to others more often.
Be brave and strong, and be yourself. Not easy, but keep trying.Please not just here, but to others.
Thank You for any SUPPORT, Rachael.
DragonCat16 said:Get everything in writing or record everything.
I support this advice. It is the best defence, add dates and as much as possible. Argue your case, yet try not to be hostile about it and stay logical and focussed about everything.
I haven't quit yet.
But it's getting worse.
This morning I was called into the general managers office to explain my behaviour over two incidents from Monday.
One is serious the other almost laughable.
The existing staff are openly critical about pay, working conditions and changes to working conditions and bureaucracy. But I was overheard commenting about being surprised about the loudness of the buzzers and how frequently various people keep coming in and out of the flat. The general manager in charge of the complex demanded to know what I meant about the buzzers and people coming and going. And that I was reported to have said it within hearing distance of one of the clients.
The second incident is more serious, I have been accused of sleeping on duty. After an eight hour shift dealing with a disabled woman who has challenging behaviour, she likes to shout, sulk, head butting, sniffing people, licking my arms etc. At change over time we were sitting down watching TV. The client was quiet engrossed in the TV show. The qualified support worker and her replacement were deep in a gossiping session (of no interest to me). My eyes closed for a moment and straight away she shouted at me that sleeping on duty is a sackable offence.
Today I was formally warned that a report about my sleeping is being sent to HR and the offence is very serious.