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Huge faux pas in social situation. How do I fix it?

Moomin5

Hi, I was recently in a social situation where I was part of a group meet up with quite a few people that I don't know. I walked into a room and was going to compliment someone on the outfit that she was wearing. However, instead I ended up looking her up and down and staring at her boobs. I didn't mean to do this at all obviously and she noticed. It was awful and I feel really embarrassed about the whole thing. Neither of us mentioned it but I feel dreadful about making her feel uncomfortable. I could easily find her on Facebook to apologise but I just think that will make it even worse! Should I just leave it? I will see her again within a few months so really don't know what to do. Thanks for reading. 

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    By the way I am undiagnosed also, maybe I haven’t a clue about any of this,?

    just my own personal views based on over analysing everything Lol.

    x()x 

  • in reply to Moomin5

    I could be totally wrong but I was led to believe many NT females look each other over when first meeting, I heard it is to form an opinion, dress Code, style, make up etc, can be to judge in a bad way or to just see what’s popular in style etc.

    so although I guessed you were female moomin5 I didn’t feel it necessary to add my bit, I thought although you are yet to be diagnosed autistic that being female the other women would not be offended, 

    I am however not NT so most probably have it all wrong, I don’t think I am to far wrong as reading about females who are autistic and seeing the first hurdles they reach are usually when moving up to a bigger school when all the girls are starting to select groups they want to be in, wear similar fashion, keep up with the latest trends, all very complex and often the female autistic is left bewildered trying to understand the complexities of it all, trying to fit in but never quite getting it right, often being dismissed as not girly enough by the “ in crowd” . 

    Often choosing  to hang around with the boys as we are less complex with social interaction and less complex when forming groups to associate with.

     Again just my views, no intention to upset or judge anyone on the spectrum or neurotypicals.

    after all we are all human beings, we all differ, there are many who vary regardless of so called traits or societal ideals,

    I wrote about my own faux pa’s on another thread, back pain and bosoms,only after I did it I realised it may be inappropriate!

    not my first and definitely not my last,

     peace and love to all.

    x()x