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Huge faux pas in social situation. How do I fix it?

Moomin5

Hi, I was recently in a social situation where I was part of a group meet up with quite a few people that I don't know. I walked into a room and was going to compliment someone on the outfit that she was wearing. However, instead I ended up looking her up and down and staring at her boobs. I didn't mean to do this at all obviously and she noticed. It was awful and I feel really embarrassed about the whole thing. Neither of us mentioned it but I feel dreadful about making her feel uncomfortable. I could easily find her on Facebook to apologise but I just think that will make it even worse! Should I just leave it? I will see her again within a few months so really don't know what to do. Thanks for reading. 

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  • Don't try to apologise. It'll only make things far worse. 

    I suppose most adult females on the planet must quickly become accustomed to undue attention to their chest at some point in their lives? Whatever the outfit was, she might have wondered if the choice was unwise, or alternatively, if she was dressed to get a reaction, you may not have been the only person she caught looking that night.

    Were you actually staring, or did you just happen to be looking at that part of her when your mind raced off through myriad associative thoughts, unconnected with where your eyes happened to be directed?

    If the latter, and only if an opportunity presents itself naturally, you might be able to work something subtle into a subsequent conversation:

    "Sometimes I'm miles away - I look like I'm paying attention, but actually my brain's wandered off onto all sorts of random stuff, and I'm not really seeing anything in front of me. Does that happen to you too, or am I just the odd one out?"

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  • Don't try to apologise. It'll only make things far worse. 

    I suppose most adult females on the planet must quickly become accustomed to undue attention to their chest at some point in their lives? Whatever the outfit was, she might have wondered if the choice was unwise, or alternatively, if she was dressed to get a reaction, you may not have been the only person she caught looking that night.

    Were you actually staring, or did you just happen to be looking at that part of her when your mind raced off through myriad associative thoughts, unconnected with where your eyes happened to be directed?

    If the latter, and only if an opportunity presents itself naturally, you might be able to work something subtle into a subsequent conversation:

    "Sometimes I'm miles away - I look like I'm paying attention, but actually my brain's wandered off onto all sorts of random stuff, and I'm not really seeing anything in front of me. Does that happen to you too, or am I just the odd one out?"

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