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Please help me understand!

Iwanttounderstand

A friend of mine that I made online has recently been diagnosed with Aspergers. I'm so pleased for her as she has been looking to get a diagnosis for a long time. She is a uni student who excels in languages & music & has recently got herself a job in the restaurent business.

What I'm hoping you can help me with is understanding her a bit better so I can support her. She is eloquent online, but has difficulties understanding when people are being inquistitive, seeing it instead as bullying. People in an unrelated FB group try to understand her by asking questions but can be soundly rebuffed by her. She also seems to take the slightest comment very negatively, lashing out on facebook, sometimes to extremes.

She also has a flair for drama, recently setting up a fake profile & trying to incite negative reactions from members of a group although I'm unsure why.

Are these things 'normal' if you pardon the phrase. I try to counsel her to think before she posts anything and reread it but she is very impulsive. Can you give me any advice so that I can support her??

Thank you

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  • Thank you both. I won't lie, I will find this hard, I didn't realise how difficult the English language is, with everyday phrases meaning something completely different to the words said! I will follow my own advice to her and re-read any post to her to ensure that it means what the words say.

    Have just seen your post einsfallspinsel & thanks for your advice too.. I know some of the answers to the questions as I know what the FB group is about, but I'll make sure to ask the other questions too. I'll also speak to other members of the group so that there is more understanding, we are all nice people with a common interest, so there shouldn't be a problem with adjusting the way we interact with my friend.

    best wishes for the future to you all.

     

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  • Thank you both. I won't lie, I will find this hard, I didn't realise how difficult the English language is, with everyday phrases meaning something completely different to the words said! I will follow my own advice to her and re-read any post to her to ensure that it means what the words say.

    Have just seen your post einsfallspinsel & thanks for your advice too.. I know some of the answers to the questions as I know what the FB group is about, but I'll make sure to ask the other questions too. I'll also speak to other members of the group so that there is more understanding, we are all nice people with a common interest, so there shouldn't be a problem with adjusting the way we interact with my friend.

    best wishes for the future to you all.

     

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