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Please help me understand!

Iwanttounderstand

A friend of mine that I made online has recently been diagnosed with Aspergers. I'm so pleased for her as she has been looking to get a diagnosis for a long time. She is a uni student who excels in languages & music & has recently got herself a job in the restaurent business.

What I'm hoping you can help me with is understanding her a bit better so I can support her. She is eloquent online, but has difficulties understanding when people are being inquistitive, seeing it instead as bullying. People in an unrelated FB group try to understand her by asking questions but can be soundly rebuffed by her. She also seems to take the slightest comment very negatively, lashing out on facebook, sometimes to extremes.

She also has a flair for drama, recently setting up a fake profile & trying to incite negative reactions from members of a group although I'm unsure why.

Are these things 'normal' if you pardon the phrase. I try to counsel her to think before she posts anything and reread it but she is very impulsive. Can you give me any advice so that I can support her??

Thank you

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  • NAS8954 said:

    I can really relate to Scorpion0x17's comment:

    "You neurotypicals make little to no sense to us, and, worst of all, try to bully and badger us in to being like you - something we simply can not do - and then interrogate us when we refuse."
    Of course, not all neurotpyicals behave in that way.

    True, I should have mentioned I was generalising grossly.

    And, nice poem, caretwo - really sums up much of how I think and feel too!

    Oh, and, @the OP: another thing I that's important to try to imagine is that on this alien planet no matter how much you try to figure out what the 'rules' by which the aliens operate are, they keep on doing things that appear to go counter to those rules, but in such a way that it's clear there are some other, non-obvious, rules by which they determine when and how to do this (a bit like, the saying 'no' when meaning 'yes' example that caretwo gave, but more general).

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  • NAS8954 said:

    I can really relate to Scorpion0x17's comment:

    "You neurotypicals make little to no sense to us, and, worst of all, try to bully and badger us in to being like you - something we simply can not do - and then interrogate us when we refuse."
    Of course, not all neurotpyicals behave in that way.

    True, I should have mentioned I was generalising grossly.

    And, nice poem, caretwo - really sums up much of how I think and feel too!

    Oh, and, @the OP: another thing I that's important to try to imagine is that on this alien planet no matter how much you try to figure out what the 'rules' by which the aliens operate are, they keep on doing things that appear to go counter to those rules, but in such a way that it's clear there are some other, non-obvious, rules by which they determine when and how to do this (a bit like, the saying 'no' when meaning 'yes' example that caretwo gave, but more general).

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