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Please help me understand!

Iwanttounderstand

A friend of mine that I made online has recently been diagnosed with Aspergers. I'm so pleased for her as she has been looking to get a diagnosis for a long time. She is a uni student who excels in languages & music & has recently got herself a job in the restaurent business.

What I'm hoping you can help me with is understanding her a bit better so I can support her. She is eloquent online, but has difficulties understanding when people are being inquistitive, seeing it instead as bullying. People in an unrelated FB group try to understand her by asking questions but can be soundly rebuffed by her. She also seems to take the slightest comment very negatively, lashing out on facebook, sometimes to extremes.

She also has a flair for drama, recently setting up a fake profile & trying to incite negative reactions from members of a group although I'm unsure why.

Are these things 'normal' if you pardon the phrase. I try to counsel her to think before she posts anything and reread it but she is very impulsive. Can you give me any advice so that I can support her??

Thank you

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  • Imagine, if you can, being born, with a neurotypical human mind, on an alien world, and in an alien culture, where everyone thinks differently to you, expects you to conform to their way of thinking, and then bullies, and interrogates you when you can't.

    Can you see that some people born into that situation might react the way your friend is reacting?

    I hope so.

    Because that, being born on an alien world, is kind of like what having Asperger's is like.

    You neurotypicals make little to no sense to us, and, worst of all, try to bully and badger us in to being like you - something we simply can not do - and then interrogate us when we refuse.

    You, and your neurotypical facebook friends, need to turn things around and ask yourselves "why do we do this?" and "why do we do that?" - why do you often not simply say what you mean, and what you think, why do you hide behind a tissue of lies and platitudes, for example?

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  • Imagine, if you can, being born, with a neurotypical human mind, on an alien world, and in an alien culture, where everyone thinks differently to you, expects you to conform to their way of thinking, and then bullies, and interrogates you when you can't.

    Can you see that some people born into that situation might react the way your friend is reacting?

    I hope so.

    Because that, being born on an alien world, is kind of like what having Asperger's is like.

    You neurotypicals make little to no sense to us, and, worst of all, try to bully and badger us in to being like you - something we simply can not do - and then interrogate us when we refuse.

    You, and your neurotypical facebook friends, need to turn things around and ask yourselves "why do we do this?" and "why do we do that?" - why do you often not simply say what you mean, and what you think, why do you hide behind a tissue of lies and platitudes, for example?

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