I find that I generally don't trust people. Is that something that is common with Aspergers? In social situations I think I take cues from my partner to see if people are OK or not. Obviously I still might not like them though......
I find that I generally don't trust people. Is that something that is common with Aspergers? In social situations I think I take cues from my partner to see if people are OK or not. Obviously I still might not like them though......
A person trusts people if she believes that she can assess them right, if she is not surprised by their reactions, if she doesn't misjudge their intentions. Such a person can trust her judgement about the trustworthiness of others, and can also identify the suspicious ones and stay out of trouble.
But if your experience is that you can hardly read others, or you don't understand their reactions, or random people seem to randomly take advantage of your "naivity", then, no, of course you don't trust them. It is (like in the case of family members) not necessarily the other's fault or an actual lack of trustworthiness. It may be a side-effect of the communication disorder, so, yeah, I think it's an Aspie thing.
"If I cannot read them it's safer to assume the worst." 
-- At the same time, I regularly fall for conmen and pranksters. That sounds like a contradiction, actually...? I don't want to trust them, but I still fall for them because I don't know what else to do, and I cannot trust my own judgement. 
A person trusts people if she believes that she can assess them right, if she is not surprised by their reactions, if she doesn't misjudge their intentions. Such a person can trust her judgement about the trustworthiness of others, and can also identify the suspicious ones and stay out of trouble.
But if your experience is that you can hardly read others, or you don't understand their reactions, or random people seem to randomly take advantage of your "naivity", then, no, of course you don't trust them. It is (like in the case of family members) not necessarily the other's fault or an actual lack of trustworthiness. It may be a side-effect of the communication disorder, so, yeah, I think it's an Aspie thing.
"If I cannot read them it's safer to assume the worst." -- At the same time, I regularly fall for conmen and pranksters. That sounds like a contradiction, actually...? I don't want to trust them, but I still fall for them because I don't know what else to do, and I cannot trust my own judgement.
