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No support. At all.

AnneMargaret

I'm fed up with me and my family getting no help or support. I am waiting to see a social worker but we have been asking for support for ages now and keep getting put off. My mum is nearly 62 and it is not fair on her having to cope with me aswell as her other kids and grandkids. I am really struggling tonight but have told no one. Except now yourselves.

Things have been like this for over 7 years. Even though i've been in and out of mental hospital. They just fob you off like everyone else out there.

What are we meant to do? I am struggling to live like this. Everyday is more of a struggle. I panic about what i should eat, when and how often should i was/wash my hair, clean my bunnies, go out, what i should buy, how i should talk. I keep forgetting how to deal with things.

I am probably making no sense at all and as i am currently tearful i am going to shut up. Sorry.

 

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  • Hi Anne,

    So glad to see you post here again!

    I for one was starting to worry about you.

    Anyway, just want to respond to this part of your post:

    AnneMargaret said:

    I am sort of still "chipper" just feeling like nobody is helping. It seems to all be about children but there are adults out there struggling to live independently. Me being one of them. (I can't go anywhere alone for starters.)

    And finally i feel my parents deserve support. I can be very up and down which is also part of my PD but my parents have never even seen a professional or anyone who could help or support them. And i feel sorry for them. They are both in their 60s.

    I know this doesn't really help in any way, but just wanted you to know you're not the only one in that boat!

    My parents are also in their 60s and are my primary carers - my Mum in particular does a huge amount for me, and I know the stress can't be doing anything for her health, and it worries me almost daily.

    This isn't helped by the fact that they live over 100 miles away from me, but Social Services just don't seem to care - in fact we've been told in effect that as long as my Mum is there to support me, it's very unlikely that they (Social Services) will provide me with any support - but, of course, she doesn't feel like she can't just stop her support, and though I have felt like saying she should I'm not sure I could cope if I did.

    Anyway, just know that are some people here that think about you, and though we don't know you, do care about you, and wish you to stay strong and healthy.

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  • Hi Anne,

    So glad to see you post here again!

    I for one was starting to worry about you.

    Anyway, just want to respond to this part of your post:

    AnneMargaret said:

    I am sort of still "chipper" just feeling like nobody is helping. It seems to all be about children but there are adults out there struggling to live independently. Me being one of them. (I can't go anywhere alone for starters.)

    And finally i feel my parents deserve support. I can be very up and down which is also part of my PD but my parents have never even seen a professional or anyone who could help or support them. And i feel sorry for them. They are both in their 60s.

    I know this doesn't really help in any way, but just wanted you to know you're not the only one in that boat!

    My parents are also in their 60s and are my primary carers - my Mum in particular does a huge amount for me, and I know the stress can't be doing anything for her health, and it worries me almost daily.

    This isn't helped by the fact that they live over 100 miles away from me, but Social Services just don't seem to care - in fact we've been told in effect that as long as my Mum is there to support me, it's very unlikely that they (Social Services) will provide me with any support - but, of course, she doesn't feel like she can't just stop her support, and though I have felt like saying she should I'm not sure I could cope if I did.

    Anyway, just know that are some people here that think about you, and though we don't know you, do care about you, and wish you to stay strong and healthy.

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