Hi am new to this been diagnosed this summer with Asperger's at age 51 always struggled to make friends be nice to at last make some on here maybe, I find it very hard to interact with people have no friends and am on my own all time, I am in East Lancashire area I am Mike hello to everyone
Hi, I am also new here and also got diagnosed with Asperger's last week at age 50 and although I have got a lot of 'friends', I also spend most of my time on my own! I guess I'm tired of simply 'fitting in', it's exhausting and is of no real interest to me anyway.
Hi thanks for message I find I get terribly lonely always on my own and this makes my depression worse, do you get lonely ? I don't want to fit in have always felt different and won't change just to fit in, I know I am a good person with good qualities I just want to be understood and treated with respect I was bullied at school and work and not worked now for 16 years
What is your name please ?
Hi, sorry, yeah, my name is Neikka. I get lonely sometimes, even though I do sometimes prefer to be by myself and sometimes I simply need to be by myself. I have never been bullied but that's because I did a good job of fitting in. I have had lots of different jobs, including social worker and mental health practitioner but I haven't worked for several years now. I think I've been experiencing burn out although I am slowly, very slowly coming out of it. I just joined a local support group for autistic people which was really good, I really enjoyed it, just being around people where I could just be me and not have to explain myself was very calming. I've only been once so haven't got to know them all yet but looking forward to going back next week.
You have done well with the jobs you have had and joining a group I am so anxious about doing anything different I find life exausting most the time I find it too hard mixing with people social but can cope with one or two people
Your name is nice where are you from ?
Things are not always as they first appear. I started using drugs from a young age to help with social anxiety etc (I didn't know I had social anxiety, I just didn't understand people or the world around me) and they eventually got the better of me, which lead me to get help and from there I did a college course which lead to a degree in social work at university. That lead to agency work as a social worker but even though I could do the job, I couldn't do it. I couldn't cope with the pace of work and being around other people so much but because I couldn't understand it, I kept on going until I finally couldn't do it any more. I used to have breaks in between jobs and being an agency worker I also knew I could leave at any time, so that helped. I can socialise, to a certain degree, but I have been doing it for so long, because I didn't know what else to do, that I don't want to socialise at all any more, although I am getting a little stir crazy from time to time. And the autism group is a dream - just being able to be me, without any explanations and know that other people get me. It's really rewarding, I highly recommend such groups. I'm from Yorkshire although I have lived several places in this country, from the north to the south, in the Isle of Man and also Bali and Australia and I'm currently back in my home town in Yorkshire. I'm currently experiencing burn out so I'm exhausted most of the time and I've barely been out the house in the past year. At times I didn't think I was ever going to get out of this burn out stage but I am slowly coming out of it but it's taking a lot of effort and with no support from anyone, it hasn't been easy.