Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello I am 20 years old now and I am still affected by being bullied a lot when I was at school and being made fun of as unfortunately it is still happening but I just need help and advice on how I can end this as it is affecting me quite a lot and also I want everyone including the government to treat people in their late teens and early 20s as full adults and not as young teenagers or children anymore as this is also affecting me quite a lot too because also they can do many things that they could not have done before. It affects me a lot at college and stops me from wanting to go outside, enjoy life more and also it has caused me to suffer from social anxiety and anger issues.
Glad Tidings and Good Fortune to Miss "Sholay09" from myself. (Hope you had a nice birthday!)
I hate to assume so many "negative" positions upon this Forum (...?) yet this here Thread - Bullying from an *Adult* Perspective - was one of those which I myself had also considered beginning here for a very long time...
Please see my UserName - I did not choose it lightly. I am approaching 50 Years, now, and yet "Bullying" still occurs. In some media it is an accepted part of Society. It is always dismissed:
Oh they didn't mean it! It is just a bit of fun!
Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me!
That won't happen again!
It is just your imagination!
You brought that onto yourself!
...That is the sort of thing which is offered as explanation. And the fact - for myself at least - is, that it never ever goes away. There are always people out there who are bad, or mean, or bored, or experimenting, or curious, or ignorant... And when they feel this way I am singled out, and that "persecution" occurs.
But-! The most positive advice I can offer to you, also works for myself: When this next happens to yourself, remember it, do not ever ignore it, recall the faces and/or behaviour of those who do it. Keep on doing this, though It may take a while to learn it. Eventually what is found is that all malicious persons act the same, once they are focussed upon yourself, and you can learn to avoid the more opportunistic versions of them. They may be adults, or they may not be higher than your knees (!), yet they all follow a similar "Script". Once you are aware of this, you can see it happening to others, and your own knowledge of it may grow and learn about it.
I would like to Post a lot more, but this is long enough already. Fair Play to You.