Found this whilst researching aspie Male /female traits,

This response  is from an individual who visits a site that caters for Aspergers people, it is in response to a long list of potential traits of a Male aspie.

I found it very interesting and I have always maintained that if there was an island just for ND people and they were left alone to be who they truly are it would work.

It would take a generation or two of learning and forgetting incorrect learnings of trying to be NT.

They would in a closed protected environment become the new ASD neurotypicals.


• Anonymous said… As a woman with AS who has been happily married for almost 30 years to a man with AS, the mother of a daughter and four sons who are all on the spectrum, the grandmother of little Spectrumites and as a fully human being with a complete range of emotions I would like to say that it is the mis-match between different neurologies that causes most of the problems. Oh, and I'm the daughter and grand-daughter of Spectrumites too. I have dropped my non-AS 'friends' over the years as I was unable to meet their expectations that I should change to be more like them. They never tried to understand me, yet expected ME to understand THEM! I have great Spectrum friends and we have fortnightly family get-togethers that are huge fun. Socializing with other Spectrumites is easy. We understand each other’s body language; eye-contact is not a problem nor is bluntness and honesty in conversation. We make allowances for each other's sensory difficulties and can tell if the other is uncomfortable, and why

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  • During the last few years since I identified myself as being Aspergers I have stopped socialising with NT people I have known for years, as I could no longer see a 'connect' between us. My social needs seem to be being met by my partner, who has Aspergers traits herself. A few times a year her son and his girlfriend visit (both diagnosed Aspergers) and I enjoy these visits as we seem to understand each other and the conversation is honest. I also have been attending a weekly autism support group, where I feel comfortable with the other autistic people there (it's an unstructured group meeting in private in a large youth club cafe).

    At my place of work I have come to recognise that in particular those NT people in positions of authority are mostly 'dishonest', meaning that for what ever reasons they act and behave with ulterior motives: seemingly it is good management to use manipulation, subtle coercion, untruths, etc., many "qualities" that autistic people seem to lack.

    Indeed I find that being around such people fatiguing, as I am trying to process my confusion of how their external behaviour does not match up with their interior behaviour. I probably am therefore avoiding many NT people because their odd way of being is draining.

    Perhaps it would be an idea to set up a support group run by autistic people for such NT's, a space where these NT's could feel safe to behave in an honest way.

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