Interpreting situations at a particular age

I would like to know, from women who are either autistic and/or adhd who are experiencing or have experienced perimenopause or menopause if they have or have had more difficulty than usual in reading or interpreting social situations. Ive coached myself over the years to make this easier to manage but I am now finding, even amongst people I am close to or have known a long time that, although nothing has seemingly changed, I am struggling to interpret intent and have started feeling very insecure, defensive and seem to be second guessing a lot of the time. Often, it doesn't feel like the usual me but at the same time is also very real. This stays internal as far as possible because it's important I am mindful around others.

Edit: I think what im saying is - autistic traits around communication and social interaction seem to have become "more autistic". I understand at this time of life there are challenges for everyone but there's an additional layer of challenge to navigate for autists and other neurodivergent folk, and what the impact of this is.


I dont need links to NAS resources but I would like to know other people's experience specifically around this. Resonance or how they were able to deal with it in a positive way. I have looked at other fora online but they are massive echo chambers with everyone being very sure of themselves. 

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  • Thank you both for your contributions so far. Although it isn't brain fog that I am referring to but rather reading situitions and intent. One might call this "taking things the wrong way", even seemingly innocuous situations. I understand this is something the predominant neurotype face too, but I know it used to be a key characteristic of my own difficulties until I learned about autism and brought in my own strategies. I feel I've made progress in the past day in understanding this but who knows. This stage of life seems quite unpredictable! An auties' nightmare! 

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  • Thank you both for your contributions so far. Although it isn't brain fog that I am referring to but rather reading situitions and intent. One might call this "taking things the wrong way", even seemingly innocuous situations. I understand this is something the predominant neurotype face too, but I know it used to be a key characteristic of my own difficulties until I learned about autism and brought in my own strategies. I feel I've made progress in the past day in understanding this but who knows. This stage of life seems quite unpredictable! An auties' nightmare! 

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