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Coping with family lack of support and understanding as an autistic parent.

Jude66

Is there any information or advice anywhere, on how to deal with family not supporting or understanding my troubles etc? 

I feel like they are saying "okay its good you're getting help and we might think about letting you back in if we see an improvement ".

Parents

  • I think you're hurting more than you let on, and that "if we see improvement" line... it's like they're holding a door half-shut, waiting for you to perform.

    It sucks. And yeah, it's not fair - recovery isn't a straight line, it's messy, quiet, sometimes invisible. But here's what I see: you're already doing the hard part. Getting help, showing up for yourself. That's not nothing.

    They might never get it. And if they don't... you don't owe them your progress. You owe it to you. Keep going, - build your own safety net. Friends, therapy, even just quiet nights where no one's judging.

     

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  • I think you're hurting more than you let on, and that "if we see improvement" line... it's like they're holding a door half-shut, waiting for you to perform.

    It sucks. And yeah, it's not fair - recovery isn't a straight line, it's messy, quiet, sometimes invisible. But here's what I see: you're already doing the hard part. Getting help, showing up for yourself. That's not nothing.

    They might never get it. And if they don't... you don't owe them your progress. You owe it to you. Keep going, - build your own safety net. Friends, therapy, even just quiet nights where no one's judging.

     

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  • in reply to lostmyway

       you're correct about hurting, it feels physical too at times. 

    Im not a perfect mum and probably never will be but it feels like I could fall off the earth and they wouldn't be bothered. 

    I know I have a lot of adjusting to do and finding coping strategies, especially for the RSD. What worries me is how do I show my adult children that I have changed, when that happens? Or will things just stay as they are now because my relationship with them is too broke?