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Mis understanding

Bethan

I was diagnosed at 18. For 23 years now I feel no one understands my autism as I've learned to mask a lot. Thing is women with aspergeres are good at appearing normal and that's what's happening in my new job right now. I'm a new carer for the elderly but the problem the staff in this new job keep treating me as if I'm normal. I've told them a few times I'm autistic but I feel it seems they are not listening. I've been asked for a review meeting to talk about support and what can be done for help. It's hard to read body language and my supervisor tells me to lower my voice and less talking but the problem is I can't help talking too much and I feel non of the elderly clients have problems with me. I just feel they don't understand me and I've only moved to Somerset 2 months ago as I'm fro. Swansea and still find it hard to make new friends. Can u help me and what should I do?

  • in reply to Bethan

    Because we’re so good at hiding it, at great cost to ourselves 

  • in reply to A

    I have done that a few times in my old jib but not in front of staff I just told my supervisor I felt bad and she sent me home. Trouble is this lady keeps telling I'll be ok until she saw me working in action. I feel she hasn't seen autism properly yet Disappointed

  • in reply to Another Autistician

    The first person I told at work literally said to me “but you’ve managed fine until now”

    (which was ironic because the only reason I told them was that I practically  collapsed in front of her because of sensory overwhelm)

  • in reply to A

    After being diagnosed late (49) it was good to know what I've battled with all my life, but.. because I've been extremely good at masking, there's definitely something frustrating about trying to explain to people that I have massive struggles and have had for years , I assume people think "so why's it an issue now then?" 

  • Bethan said:
    Thing is women with aspergeres are good at appearing normal

    Not just women. There are loads of late diagnosed men on this forum, who nobody ever noticed were autistic.