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Education?

Lelk2024

My 10 year old daughter was recently diagnosed and is a high masker. She also refuses to go to school because of emotional based school avoidance. I’ve been working with her school to try get her back but seem to be hitting a brick wall each time and there answer is maybe my daughter should move school? Can they move her if I refuse this? 

  • I don't know if the school can move her - I think that's down to the local authority.

    There is advice on this website about education which might help:

    https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/education

    But sometimes school is not an appropriate learning environment for an autistic individual, so it might be worth exploring whether she could study at home instead if things don't improve.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    Cat woman - what a brilliantly perceptive post. I struggled through secondary school trying to blend in and now realise that I was somewhat traumatised. I didn't dare "bunk off" as I was frightened of the consequences, but I fully understand why you did it.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman
    TheCatWoman said:
    People don't realise that "high maskers" can be a ball of unexpressed stress and sheer terror underneath the mask of calm and normality, I wonder if high maskers don't have it harder in some ways than those who are unable to mask, there's more likely to be an assumption that they can cope when they can't and that they have more emotional maturity than they do

    This is such a good paragraph  

  • I refused to go to school, although with me it was bunking off, often for weeks and months at a time, I was being bullied and just didn't get on at school at all, I found it totally overwhelming and had done from my very first day in infants. By the time I was at secondary school I now realise that I was in burn out, but of course 50 years ago nobody recognised anything like autism or learning difficulties.

    I don't know if the school can enforce a move, what does your daughter want, it's really important that her wishes and needs are taken into account and not ignored. I wonder if moving school wouldn't be a good solution for her seeing as the school she's currently at don't seem to want her. WOn't she have to move school anyway when she gets to 11?

    People don't realise that "high maskers" can be a ball of unexpressed stress and sheer terror underneath the mask of calm and normality, I wonder if high maskers don't have it harder in some ways than those who are unable to mask, there's more likely to be an assumption that they can cope when they can't and that they have more emotional maturity than they do.