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Daughter has stopped going outside

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Hi , I'm really stuck on what to do ,  my daughter is 12,  she has been out of education for nearly 4 years due to having a mental breakdown from masking from age 5 is school until she could no longer do it anymore it affected her mental health, 

Over the years we have tried everything to get her back into school but everything made her worse,  she struggles lots of different things like change, has lots of sensory difficulties, and sadly sheshe doesn't  like people Pensiveso over the last few months I have seen her decline from the outside world, saying it's too noisy or too many people, to the point now she cant go outside to see her rabbits, 

This is so upsetting because we have been waiting for her to have a autism diagnosis, the school where she is on roll with don't believe she is autistic and have sent a welfare officer around to our home which caused my daughter a lot of stress, we can't even mention the word school and she becomes anxious, I'm stuck as noe she won't go outside I'm feeling the school will get the social services round all they want is her diagnosis but when I ring up about how much longer the lady told me they didn't have enough evidence so after two years still not getting anywhere hope someone can help please

  • Hi, my input probably isn't going to be great, but I spent six years without leaving the houes at all and I've isolated for twenty years after leaving school at ten or so. The thing for me that helps the most is music and headphones, it really helps block out the outside world. As for leaving the house.... I was forcibly dragged outside, so not the best experience. Have you thought about bringing the rabbits closer to the house? It might seem silly but not having as far to go outside might be the beginnings of a first step.

  • in reply to LateToTheAuDhdParty

    Hi thanks for the advice, no she is not getting bullied, as she has been out of education for years due to masking her behaviour then not able to cope anymore, 

    She does have fidget toys, thanks x

  • I have gotten to the same point aged 52. I also have trauma, and not going out can be a manifestation of that so it might be worth looking at a psychologist (with knowledge of ADHD/Autism)

    I need the right environment to be calm and feel safe. Sensory issues are really bad for me so it might be the same for your daughter. She might be being bullied?

    Fight them if they say she doesn't seem Autistic-the majority of assessment services STILL use the male profile. It beggars belief.

    Can you make your daughters room a sensory safe place? Does she have fidget toys? Ask her what makes her feel better and don't try to force her outside if she is currently hating it-she will (and has) gotten worse. The system is at fault, not your little girl.  x