Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello all,
So I've been unemployed now for basically a year (on December 15th). Throughout this whole year, I have been for countless interviews, completed various tasks for job applications, the lot. I was unsuccessful for all the roles, even having put in hours of hard work preparing for interviews and completing tasks, it still was not enough. I ask for feedback as to why I was unsuccessful, yet I just get no reply, so I don't really understand where it is I am falling short. I have been dealing with severe burnout as a result. I really want to give up and face the reality that no one may want to hire me, no matter how badly I want a job. I mean, a year is a long time to be out of work. Before my unemployment, I had graduated university in Maths with Economics, and got an internship at a market research agency. I was not successful in the internship, hence I was dismissed after the probation period of 3 months. It was due to a number of things such as my disability and not meeting "the standards of the Company" as quoted in the leaving letter. I did sense that my line manager was not my biggest fan, and they also part of the decision. Honestly I don't know what to do. It seems like with my disability, and I hate to bring it up, but my ethnic background, it is really difficult for me to break out of this cycle of unemployment.
Does anyone have any advice on how to gain employment, how to gain independence outside of the education system? Because that's all i've done in my life up until the last year.
I think that whenever I show fear or desperation during any interview, I'm never hired. So no matter what negative feeling or negative life circumstance I'm facing, but I just learned to walk into the interview, smiling, friendly, and enjoying my time there.
I mean people will teach you to be prepared, to write a good resume, and to answer questions that the interviewer might have, but they never teach you how to interact with the interviewer. If you seem friendly and have a good and positive personality, they'll hire you.
If you think about things from an interviewer's perspective, they'll have so many people come in all anxious and fearful, like it's a dreadful experience for them to come and see you, and it's just awful to spend the entire day knowing that you're meeting with people who look at you like their life is going to end. It's actually a nice change for the interviewer to meet someone who gives them some kind of positive interaction and has a good conversation with them. It gives them a good feeling on the inside, and that's that "good impression" that you want to leave them with.
I guess this kind of thing, like leaving a good feeling or good impression, could go into other areas of life as well, like for relationships, friendships, and etc.