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I feel like there's so much pressure on girls to look nice and act a certain way.

It's really frustrating.

Do you wear jewellery and makeup? There's a lot of pressure to wear it.

I don't wear a lot of makeup. The feel of it on my skin is horrible and I've got to wash it off or I'll have a meltdown.

Jewellery I can cope with so long as it's not too heavy or tight.

At school there's a rule that we're not allowed to wear jewellery. I think that's rubbish as a lot of jewellery is only small. I had this gorgeous ring on and my teacher confiscated it - for a week. This was a year ago and I've not worn any at school since.

I don't wear it all the time anyway just every now and then.

It makes me feel more beautiful and special if I'm all geared up. I take jewellery off throughout the day as it becomes uncomfortable after a while.

I feel there's a lot of pressure to look good. I did try and explain to my teacher but she wouldn't agree for some reason.

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  • My fiancee, who we suspect is autistic, rarely wears make up. When we started going out, she wore only two, fairly discreet pieces of jewellery, although she now wears a somewhat larger engagement ring which used to belong to my grandmother. She's going to get another ring in ten days.

    I suspect I wouldn't wear make up or jewellery if I was a woman (admittedly a somewhat subjective assessment), although I decided at the last minute that I wanted a wedding ring too, to publicly show the relationship (in Jewish weddings, it's only necessary for the man to give the woman a ring, not the reverse, and grooms can decide if they want one). I worry that I will find it uncomfortable, as I find my watch uncomfortable and tend to only wear it outdoors.

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  • My fiancee, who we suspect is autistic, rarely wears make up. When we started going out, she wore only two, fairly discreet pieces of jewellery, although she now wears a somewhat larger engagement ring which used to belong to my grandmother. She's going to get another ring in ten days.

    I suspect I wouldn't wear make up or jewellery if I was a woman (admittedly a somewhat subjective assessment), although I decided at the last minute that I wanted a wedding ring too, to publicly show the relationship (in Jewish weddings, it's only necessary for the man to give the woman a ring, not the reverse, and grooms can decide if they want one). I worry that I will find it uncomfortable, as I find my watch uncomfortable and tend to only wear it outdoors.

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