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Bullying

Trisha

Were any other girls bullied at school? I'm not being bullied but my little sis is Year 7 and she's got Downs and a girl told me she's being bullied for it. I'm not sure what to do about it. I feel like confronting the bullies but I don't want to make it worse for Holly. I won't say to the teachers because no one does that in our school, if you grass you'll be singled out later on. So I think I need to deal with it but I don't know how.

Was any of you bullied? If you could say how you dealt with it that would be a big help.

Thanks.

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  • Yes, big time and I got no help.  My head refused to believe my mother and told me it all my fault because I was "not like the other children".  

    But don't let that worry you.  I am 56, that was the 1970s, no one knew I was autistic and schools did not have anti-bullying policies in those days. Things have moved on since then. I am sure if staff in your school were aware something would be done about this, particularly given your sister's vulnerability.

    Have you an adult in the family who can take this up with the school?  If you don't have that support, perhaps you could write a letter to the head, telling them what you know and expressing your concern both for your sister an for yourself if they bullies found out that you had said something.  I would hope they would treat the information with some discretion.

    If you decide to confront them yourself, take care.  It's right to tell them that their behaviour is unacceptable, but if anyone gets aggressive back off.  The last thing you want is for them to start throwing punches and for all that to get misunderstood by staff.  Far better for the staff to be dealing with this.

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  • Yes, big time and I got no help.  My head refused to believe my mother and told me it all my fault because I was "not like the other children".  

    But don't let that worry you.  I am 56, that was the 1970s, no one knew I was autistic and schools did not have anti-bullying policies in those days. Things have moved on since then. I am sure if staff in your school were aware something would be done about this, particularly given your sister's vulnerability.

    Have you an adult in the family who can take this up with the school?  If you don't have that support, perhaps you could write a letter to the head, telling them what you know and expressing your concern both for your sister an for yourself if they bullies found out that you had said something.  I would hope they would treat the information with some discretion.

    If you decide to confront them yourself, take care.  It's right to tell them that their behaviour is unacceptable, but if anyone gets aggressive back off.  The last thing you want is for them to start throwing punches and for all that to get misunderstood by staff.  Far better for the staff to be dealing with this.

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