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Playing as a child

Catlady31

Hi, my daughter is 11.5 and will play with baby dolls, she now has a few of the reborn type that were popular over the last couple of years.  When younger, we would buy her character dolls like Ariel, Belle and Barbie but she never played with them.  She would want LOL dolls as girls in her class had them but I didn't get the impression she really really wanted them herself, more because peers had them and once she had opened up the accessories and set the scene, she didn't play with them.

She was asked in her assessment whether she played with dolls and she said she didn't.  Should I have explained she does but plays with baby dolls as if she is the mum and any other dolls she didn't really play with?  I don't want to give wrong information.  

Thanks for any insight into this question.

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  • Catlady31 said:
    She was asked in her assessment whether she played with dolls and she said she didn't.  Should I have explained she does but plays with baby dolls as if she is the mum

    I think this may be a situation where it is not so much her perspective that she is playing, but using the dolls to process and role play how she sees social interaction within the family group. It is quite possibly just her mind making sense of the rules that us on the Spectrum have to work so much harder than Neurotypicals to get to grips with.

    If she says she is not playing then take her work on it - by all means quiz her a little on it to make sure she understands what playing actually means as it could also be a minsunderstanding on her part of this too.

    It's tough being a child on the Spectrum and taking a bit of time to clarify both what you are asking and understanding her answer will help her.

    I get the bit about wanting to have the same toys as the others in her peer group - at that age all you want to do is fit in and have a common dialogue and if she is on the Spectrum then she will already be at a disadvantage and seen as a bit "odd" by her peers.

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  • Catlady31 said:
    She was asked in her assessment whether she played with dolls and she said she didn't.  Should I have explained she does but plays with baby dolls as if she is the mum

    I think this may be a situation where it is not so much her perspective that she is playing, but using the dolls to process and role play how she sees social interaction within the family group. It is quite possibly just her mind making sense of the rules that us on the Spectrum have to work so much harder than Neurotypicals to get to grips with.

    If she says she is not playing then take her work on it - by all means quiz her a little on it to make sure she understands what playing actually means as it could also be a minsunderstanding on her part of this too.

    It's tough being a child on the Spectrum and taking a bit of time to clarify both what you are asking and understanding her answer will help her.

    I get the bit about wanting to have the same toys as the others in her peer group - at that age all you want to do is fit in and have a common dialogue and if she is on the Spectrum then she will already be at a disadvantage and seen as a bit "odd" by her peers.

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