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Struggle to connect with other women

Nic

I'm 30 and I struggle to make and maintain friendships with other women. It seems to get more difficult with age. Female groups have bluntly "ditched" me through school and college; I offended them or was too "weird"; I was oblivious I made them feel that way at the time. As I've grown older, I noticed I connected with males easier, and my female circle has dwindled and not grown since college. I can meet somebody, and we have similar interests, style and outlook; it should be easy, but I just can't seem to make a connection. I'm beginning to feel incredibly lonely and worried about my future. Can anyone give me some advice? How can I go about making a connection, without being forceful? or point me in the direction of any ASD woman's social groups in Yorkshire? (Is that forceful??) Thanks :-)

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  • I don't know if this is your type of thing, but there's a Geek Retreat in Yorkshire. My husband went there on the way to Scotland with the children and they absolutely loved it, and told me we HAD to visit the one opening in our town. 

    They were 100% right. 

    It's an amazing space full of other adults who like games, which tends to be a lot of autistic folks, but also they host evenings where you come and have structured play with other adults. It's really easy to make friends and get to know people because the same people tend to go to events regularly and almost every woman I have met there is autistic and desperate for friends too :-) 

    They do board games sessions, RPG dungeons and dragons type stuff, card games... all sorts. But the staff are really good, so if you arrive and say you don't know anybody, they buddy you up with a regular and help you to join in. 

    It's a bit daunting to walk in on your own at first, but now it feels like home from home. Various combinations of my family are there at least four days a week now, and my son even started working there because he loved it so much - which is amazing because he's a total introvert and really struggled with making friends before, but now he has TONNES. 

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  • I don't know if this is your type of thing, but there's a Geek Retreat in Yorkshire. My husband went there on the way to Scotland with the children and they absolutely loved it, and told me we HAD to visit the one opening in our town. 

    They were 100% right. 

    It's an amazing space full of other adults who like games, which tends to be a lot of autistic folks, but also they host evenings where you come and have structured play with other adults. It's really easy to make friends and get to know people because the same people tend to go to events regularly and almost every woman I have met there is autistic and desperate for friends too :-) 

    They do board games sessions, RPG dungeons and dragons type stuff, card games... all sorts. But the staff are really good, so if you arrive and say you don't know anybody, they buddy you up with a regular and help you to join in. 

    It's a bit daunting to walk in on your own at first, but now it feels like home from home. Various combinations of my family are there at least four days a week now, and my son even started working there because he loved it so much - which is amazing because he's a total introvert and really struggled with making friends before, but now he has TONNES. 

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