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I went to the doctor - please respond

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To cut a long story short - my sister who works with autistic adults told me a few weeks ago she believes I’m autistic. I looked into it and strongly resonate with what I found. I’ve struggled my whole life with communication, not being able to make it keep friends, not holding down jobs, having meltdowns after any social interaction, having strong sensitivities to sound and light. So many things but trying to keep this brief. I wrote it all down and went to see the GP today. I’m now sat in tears wondering what I’ve done. She completely diminished how I feel and I felt like she was trying to say I’m suicidal and depressed (I’m not at all), but worst of all she kept questioning if I’m coping with my two children (4 months and 16 months). I felt like that’s all she was questioning for ages. She kept asking if I had bonded with them etc. I’m absolutely fine with my children. I’m now worried she may report me as she thinks I’m some depressed psycho? She missed the point of what I was trying to say and now I feel like I’ve really dug myself a hole. I wish I never went. Can she report me as a mum now? Please help I’m in bits. I’ve no idea what just happened. 

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  • I’m so sorry you had this experience - that’s absolutely terrible. It’s dreadful that this GP has made you feel this way. No one is going to take your children away from you - please don’t worry. Struggling to cope with two very young children is entirely normal - it’s not something that would get you ‘reported’ to anyone! I think this GP has left you with entirely the wrong impression. She also doesn’t seem to have addressed your fundamental concern - which is whether or not you might be autistic. Is there another GP at the practice you could talk to? Because this GP has not addressed your concerns - in fact she’s actually made you feel worse! That’s not the idea! It’s also possible (and I say this with respect and because I am prone to this too) that you are feeling somewhat anxious and paranoid when you look back on this interaction with your GP? I do this - I always analyse things afterwards and have a tendency to panic about what I’ve said, and how I’ve been perceived. So could it be that this fear is contributing to your feelings about the appointment?

    it’s always worth writing a letter to your GP about your concerns if you think it might help? Sometimes writing things down can make it easier to be sure you’ve put your point across as clearly as possible and then you can have the reassurance that you’ve said all you wish to say. 

    most importantly though please don’t worry about your children - no one is going to be reporting you or doing anything like that. Doctors see stressed out mothers - and autistic mothers - on a regular basis - it’s not something that triggers some sort of intervention. It’s just normal :) 

  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    Thank you for replying I really appreciate it. You have made me feel better about it. 
    I do think I am looking back and now feeling anxious and paranoid, I do tend to do this. I’m also now wondering if I am autistic at all and maybe it is just anxiety (she said something along the lines of it is possibly just social anxiety) but I’m not sure if that explains all of the difficulties I’ve experienced throughout my life. I don’t know and I’m still unsure if going to the GP was even a good idea but it’s done now. 

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  • in reply to Kate Kestrel

    Thank you for replying I really appreciate it. You have made me feel better about it. 
    I do think I am looking back and now feeling anxious and paranoid, I do tend to do this. I’m also now wondering if I am autistic at all and maybe it is just anxiety (she said something along the lines of it is possibly just social anxiety) but I’m not sure if that explains all of the difficulties I’ve experienced throughout my life. I don’t know and I’m still unsure if going to the GP was even a good idea but it’s done now. 

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