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I went to the doctor - please respond

PinkPomPom

To cut a long story short - my sister who works with autistic adults told me a few weeks ago she believes I’m autistic. I looked into it and strongly resonate with what I found. I’ve struggled my whole life with communication, not being able to make it keep friends, not holding down jobs, having meltdowns after any social interaction, having strong sensitivities to sound and light. So many things but trying to keep this brief. I wrote it all down and went to see the GP today. I’m now sat in tears wondering what I’ve done. She completely diminished how I feel and I felt like she was trying to say I’m suicidal and depressed (I’m not at all), but worst of all she kept questioning if I’m coping with my two children (4 months and 16 months). I felt like that’s all she was questioning for ages. She kept asking if I had bonded with them etc. I’m absolutely fine with my children. I’m now worried she may report me as she thinks I’m some depressed psycho? She missed the point of what I was trying to say and now I feel like I’ve really dug myself a hole. I wish I never went. Can she report me as a mum now? Please help I’m in bits. I’ve no idea what just happened. 

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  • She was probably concerned that you have post natal depression having such young children, I remember being given mood questionnaires at various points by the health visitor. I don’t think she will report you but it is something they need to be on top of if they encounter it as there have been some high profile cases where the Mum had post natal depression or post natal psychosis and has ended up purposefully harming themselves and the baby.  Have you taken any online tests for autism like the AQ-50? My husband found it much easier to present things like that to the doctor as there can be quite an overlap between a few conditions. Maybe you can ask for a second opinion if you have a high AQ-50 score? My husband has had the best responses from talking to a paramedic practitioner at our GP practice rather than a GP. Might be worth reaching out to a different kind of professional if your sister has any links?

  • in reply to GuybrushThreepwood

    Thank you for your reply. She did say she was going to refer me for an assessment so that is something. I have done online tests that all point to autism but didn’t mention those to the GP, didn’t really think about that to be honest. 
    I’m just driving myself mad thinking something will happen to my children :( I didn’t mention anything about depression it was all about communication, struggles with sound and light and when in shops etc but spoke about how it’s always affected me, it’s not a recent thing. I said the only reason I’m questioning it now is because of what my sister said. But all I keep thinking about is if she’s going to report me for being unfit? I’m not unfit at all, I’m such a loving mum and I love my babies to pieces 

  • in reply to PinkPomPom

    Oh, you got the referral.  Good.  Ignore bits of the below then.

    But with respect to your kids, confidentiality would dictate that she wouldn't pass that on to anyone unless she you were a danger and there's nothing there to indicate that - it would take a lot more than being a bit stressed by your kids or not bonding well.  She was just probably checking out for other signs of stress.  I would still be minded to write and say you think that she didn't quite understand what you were saying and that her questions were off the mark and upset you. 

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  • in reply to PinkPomPom

    Oh, you got the referral.  Good.  Ignore bits of the below then.

    But with respect to your kids, confidentiality would dictate that she wouldn't pass that on to anyone unless she you were a danger and there's nothing there to indicate that - it would take a lot more than being a bit stressed by your kids or not bonding well.  She was just probably checking out for other signs of stress.  I would still be minded to write and say you think that she didn't quite understand what you were saying and that her questions were off the mark and upset you. 

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