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I went to the doctor - please respond

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To cut a long story short - my sister who works with autistic adults told me a few weeks ago she believes I’m autistic. I looked into it and strongly resonate with what I found. I’ve struggled my whole life with communication, not being able to make it keep friends, not holding down jobs, having meltdowns after any social interaction, having strong sensitivities to sound and light. So many things but trying to keep this brief. I wrote it all down and went to see the GP today. I’m now sat in tears wondering what I’ve done. She completely diminished how I feel and I felt like she was trying to say I’m suicidal and depressed (I’m not at all), but worst of all she kept questioning if I’m coping with my two children (4 months and 16 months). I felt like that’s all she was questioning for ages. She kept asking if I had bonded with them etc. I’m absolutely fine with my children. I’m now worried she may report me as she thinks I’m some depressed psycho? She missed the point of what I was trying to say and now I feel like I’ve really dug myself a hole. I wish I never went. Can she report me as a mum now? Please help I’m in bits. I’ve no idea what just happened. 

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  • Hi Anon16,

    God! I get so frustrated hearing stories like yours about GPs and sadly they aren't uncommon.  I really feel for you here.  Your GP obviously isn't listening at all and is off on some other agenda.  I'm sorry she's upset you so much.  It must have taken a lot to go to her in the first place and you didn't deserve that as a response.  But, if you want to be charitable here, this stuff happens because GPs often literally know nothing whatever about autism.  Mine even thought I "suffer with autism".  Not a disease, doctor!

    In your place, what I would do at this point is do an AQ50 on line and print off the results.  I'd then write to your GP telling her how you think she misunderstood the purpose of your visit; that you are absolutely not suicidal or depressed, nor are you having problems with your kids, but also enclosing the results of the AQ50 and detailing all of the ways in which you suspect that you might be autistic and the reasons why you feel a diagnosis would benefit you and then ask her to consider that again.

    If she doesn't ask to see a different GP who might have some experience with autism in their qualification set.

    Bless you.  That's horrible.  I hope this turns out better in the end.

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  • Hi Anon16,

    God! I get so frustrated hearing stories like yours about GPs and sadly they aren't uncommon.  I really feel for you here.  Your GP obviously isn't listening at all and is off on some other agenda.  I'm sorry she's upset you so much.  It must have taken a lot to go to her in the first place and you didn't deserve that as a response.  But, if you want to be charitable here, this stuff happens because GPs often literally know nothing whatever about autism.  Mine even thought I "suffer with autism".  Not a disease, doctor!

    In your place, what I would do at this point is do an AQ50 on line and print off the results.  I'd then write to your GP telling her how you think she misunderstood the purpose of your visit; that you are absolutely not suicidal or depressed, nor are you having problems with your kids, but also enclosing the results of the AQ50 and detailing all of the ways in which you suspect that you might be autistic and the reasons why you feel a diagnosis would benefit you and then ask her to consider that again.

    If she doesn't ask to see a different GP who might have some experience with autism in their qualification set.

    Bless you.  That's horrible.  I hope this turns out better in the end.

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