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Daughter masking at school and struggling

Chelsea

My daughter who is 7 recently went up to year 3 this is a brand new school and we had everything in place following from her infant school. She has a full ehcp 32.5 hours a week which has been in place since she first ever started school in reception. 
my daughter also has cerebral palsy  affecting her left side so she has a left side weakness. 
my daughter does a really good job at masking her autism at school and coming home and completely melting down telling me she hates school it makes her feel weird she tells me she hates her self because her “friends” aren’t like her and she doesn’t have many friends. 
she does not advocate for herself at school if she needs help or support she won’t put her hand up or won’t ask any one for help. She has a hard time to learn to trust people and in infants she had the same 1-1 through the whole time she was there. This period of adjusting has been really difficult for her and I’m at a loss on how to help or how to approach the school and speak with them! 
many tips and advice would be very much appreciated for one really worried mummy who could just keep her at home all the time but I know that’s not what is best for her! 
please help 

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  • I'm afraid that school is not a pleasant place for autistics, I became selectively mute intermittently, for a couple of years after starting infant school. Having said that, it can be made more bearable. I suspect that your daughter does not want to attract attention to herself. Wanting to fit in and not be 'different' is a very powerful inhibitory force in children. I think that the obvious answer is for the school and her teacher to be more proactive. Getting them on board is the difficult part, and ensuring that their specific targeted help for your daughter is done in a discreet and tactful way. I think that you firstly need to do some research on how school impacts autistic children in general and then what is negatively affecting your daughter in particular. Finding out the latter may not be too easy! Once armed with solid information, I would then approach the school for a meeting.

    Write a supporting document to give the school, so that they have something to refer to once the meeting is over. If you can agree to a written course of action with the school, all the better.

  • in reply to Martin

    Thank you so much for your reply! 
    have been trying to research different things not coming out very lucky with that! 
    thanks again! X

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