Where do we go from here?

My boy is 14 and deliberately cut his arm for first time last night with a knife. Stayed at hospital last night see here waiting for visit from cams this afternoon. I've been trying get appointment with school last two weeks to sort out issues there think will be able to sort that now with all this happening. What I feel is biggest problem from my perspective is his very addicted to social media and technology and it's become impossible to monitor because he demands privacy and sets passwords. I want to respect that but fear negative influences coming from there. If I ban the technology he now has harmed himself. I find it difficult to always remain calm as feel if I don't give in all the time he will do this. Also I feel he distorts things e.g. how I have reacted to his behaviour or that of his teachers. How can I connect more positively? how can I put boundaries in? How can I help him see other perspectives to help bridge the gap between him and others so that he doesn't suffer such strong overwhelming negative emotions? Please help.

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  • Thank you. We saw Cams and he has a follow up Tuesday. I shall be seeing the school Friday and including the headmistress and arranging frequent follow ups. He's not going back till improvements have been made. My gut says his depressed and anxious and needs extra help now. I'm thinking the possibility of meds I'm torn as didn't wanna go that route but if that's what's best for him... I knew the teenage years would likely exacerbate issues and this is the path we are on now. I appreciate this site so much it's been the one constant the last four years since diagnosis with vital info, support and insights. Thank you to you all x

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  • Thank you. We saw Cams and he has a follow up Tuesday. I shall be seeing the school Friday and including the headmistress and arranging frequent follow ups. He's not going back till improvements have been made. My gut says his depressed and anxious and needs extra help now. I'm thinking the possibility of meds I'm torn as didn't wanna go that route but if that's what's best for him... I knew the teenage years would likely exacerbate issues and this is the path we are on now. I appreciate this site so much it's been the one constant the last four years since diagnosis with vital info, support and insights. Thank you to you all x

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