My son is three this weekend and having seen the health visitor today and done the 36 month questionnaire my son is still very behind. Myself and the health visitor believe he is showing signs of autisium and or aspergeous. She is referring him to see the paediatrician asap but I'm in need of some pointers now.
he is very much set in his way and routine is very important the slightest thing can and will set him off and can lead to huge meltdowns some lasting five mins to all day on and off. He is very distructive and can at times hit myself and his sibling and think it's hilarious. He also can be nasty to our dog if I don't watch him. Feeding time can be stressful if i haven't put the right food he likes in front of him baths are a no no but will occasionally have a shower at nannys house but without shampoos and soap. We cant use hair clippers on him and have to go to hairdressers he trusts. He can be very over active and then other days clingy and doesn't want to know.
He will clench his feet stomp feet and flap hands when having meltdown or stressed out. Sometimes he will play happily for few minutes before being restless and needing to something else. Tv is hit and miss depends on frame of mind he has a nasty habit of spitting at people or all over the house or himself.
He will interact with people he knows and other days he won't at nursery he doesn't display the majority of this so it could be black and white structure for him. Home friends and going out is stressful waiting for him to perform if u like. some family don't like us going out with them and friends have stopped inviting us out or coming round this is getting me down and without support I'm pulling my hair out I'm diagnosed with depression and anxiety and it's only getting worse please can someone give me some tips on how to mange with the situation until he is seen by a pedoatrocian not only is it affecting myself but my eldest child is feeling very pushed out because all my time is on my youngest
thanks for taking the time to read and any help would be grateful x
