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Struggling with 11 year old autistic son mood swings

Helpwithmildautism

Hi everyone,

I'm new here and 6 mths ago, my son was diagnosed with mild autism.

However, following diagnosis we've had no further support or contact from CAHMS.

I am a working single mum, and I'm finding his mood swings and behaviour more and more difficult.

He's never wanted to take part in any activities, sports etc despite our best efforts and is becoming more and more solitary... obsessed with his xbox and you tube.

His dad is still in his life and we are still friends so there isn't any drama there.

the trouble is, he can be extremely moody, rude and snaps very quickly. Then he can say some really hurtful things, which... although i know he doesn't really mean, it does really get to me as its always me that gets the brunt of it.

He is very particular about liking things a certain way, and when they dont go his way, he lashes out.

I always imagined it would get easier as he got older, but its much harder to cope with.

i just wish i knew how to handle him better, without getting upset or makng him worse. I'm trying my best, but its not working.

I'm hoping to find some parents who have similar problems and can offer some advice please.

Thanks

SM

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  • My son is 14 with ASD .. I totalily understand what you are going through!

    secondary school and hormones have a lot to do with it... my son is addicted to the Xbox and YouTube, and I went through hours of beating myself up times when I felt like an awful mum as I let him do it... a safe haven of a bedroom has been amazing, he goes in there and absorbs himself... he is confrontational, but since going on a Sygnet course I have a lot more insight into the way his brain works.

    unfortunetly, many boys with ASD, simply don't want the constant interaction that other children want, or that even we want as parents..... I now feel much more comfortable with dealing with my son now I know more about what makes him tick...

    i backed right off, only made him do things that were absolutely necessary, and the trust has built up beautifully... I still have moments when I think I should push him to come out of his room for meals, but can see how stressful even that is for him.

    he is awaiting a special school as he has just got his EHCP, and looking back, I wished that I had been aware of how important it was for him to be in a school that specialised in autism as I felt that mainstream just got too overwhelming for him

    i hope I don't sound patronisin, but think of it like this... having a simple conversion or going to the shops for Autistic children can be the equivalent of us having a dentist appointment, a full days shopping, our car breaking down and be locked out... their brains just can't take the complexity.....

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  • My son is 14 with ASD .. I totalily understand what you are going through!

    secondary school and hormones have a lot to do with it... my son is addicted to the Xbox and YouTube, and I went through hours of beating myself up times when I felt like an awful mum as I let him do it... a safe haven of a bedroom has been amazing, he goes in there and absorbs himself... he is confrontational, but since going on a Sygnet course I have a lot more insight into the way his brain works.

    unfortunetly, many boys with ASD, simply don't want the constant interaction that other children want, or that even we want as parents..... I now feel much more comfortable with dealing with my son now I know more about what makes him tick...

    i backed right off, only made him do things that were absolutely necessary, and the trust has built up beautifully... I still have moments when I think I should push him to come out of his room for meals, but can see how stressful even that is for him.

    he is awaiting a special school as he has just got his EHCP, and looking back, I wished that I had been aware of how important it was for him to be in a school that specialised in autism as I felt that mainstream just got too overwhelming for him

    i hope I don't sound patronisin, but think of it like this... having a simple conversion or going to the shops for Autistic children can be the equivalent of us having a dentist appointment, a full days shopping, our car breaking down and be locked out... their brains just can't take the complexity.....

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