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University advice please

SkepticalBarry

Okay hi everyone, im currently studying electronic engineering at uni and im having a hard time attending lectures, going to labs and i think im generally missing out on the uni experience due to my anxiety. i really want to do well on my course as i know i can easily get a 1st if i do the work i just find it really hard to persuade myself to go. is there any way i can try to improve this? i want to show myself how clever i really am

thanks :)

  • What particularly makes it daunting for you? Is it the quantity of people that you come across? If so, lectures usually start on the hour, have you tried turning up 30mins before yours are due to start so that the majority of people are in their lectures? Could you ask the university to let you park closer to your building?

  • i have a car that i drive to and from campus( which actually fills me with confidence ). i think walking across campus to get to where i need to go is daunting for me but i guess id better just man up and go, its just that i always talk myself out of going :(

  • Electronic engineering is a good degree. You can do many things with that.

    When I went to (a non-campus) University the first time, I was very similar to you by the sounds of it. I had no problem going to lectures/labs in first year because they were a short walk from where I lived (c. 10 mins). In second year in an attempt to fit in, I moved into a house 45mins away by bus. Because of this and many other reasons my mental health declined massively and I just missed everything until I couldn't take it anymore. I dropped out. That was the most galling thing I have ever done in my entire life!! My plan had always been get a degree, do a masters, get a doctorate. I failed and it was awful. I feel like I don't live up to my potential most of the time, but I now had proof.

    Anyway, I went to (a different campus) University a second time, I set myself a goal of getting 80% amalgamated mark for the degree. My prior experience had given me an unbreakable determination to avoid dropping out at all costs, because that feeling is the worst. So, in some sense I guess that feeling of catastrophic failure was good for me in the long run. But, I do NOT suggest you drop out. Avoid it at all costs. A very painful experience. (Not to mention expensive too!)

    The only way I have ever found to beat the anxiety is to focus on the next small step. Then the next, etc. Until you are past the cause of the anxiety.

    Have you tried to identify the specific cause of the anxiety in each instance?