Hi, I am fairly new to posting here and I do it as I need to vent. My 6yr old son is currently going through the SCAMP Process, which as I am sure you are aware can be a 6-12 month process.
The school have been a nightmare from day one. When we transferred to the area, he missed the remaining 6 months of reception as they said they did not have provision for him to be full time, so best not to go in at all. Then when he did start in yr 1 he had a 121 teacher, but only for the mornings, they really struggled with him but no changes were made until starting yr 2, where they decided that he needed a full time 121 as the class teacher couldnt cope.
To cover the afternoons they brought in a new 121 and since she has started my son hates school and it is a battle to get him to go and he often has trouble sleeping because of it. More worryingly he has escaped her care 3 times and once made it out of school grounds and the head teacher had to step in to get him back (yes he is only 6 and getting that far away from them - scary), to top it off she told me she had to restrain him for punching a teacher. I was deeply horrified for 2 reasons, 1 - he has never struck out without being struck first and 2 - she restrained him.
When I brought my concerns of the schools abaility to provide a safe environment to the attention of the Head, again I was horrified that the Head knew nothing of the punching and restraining and she said they are quite capable of keeping him safe (clearly not the case).
I have since found out that my son did not punch the teacher but yet he was still restrained for doing the action in front of her. I know that restraining can be necessary, but I have never ever ever had to restrain him and that is the worse thing they could possible do, to a child like him. But the Head is standing by his teacher.
There was a full day that went by after my conversation with the head about MY concerns for my sons safety. Then at 4.15pm the day before a school trip the school called me and said they were now concerned for his safety and unless I go on the school trip, my son can not go (blackmail, as far as I am concerned).
I put everything down in a letter of complaint and yesterday I had a meeting with 5 members of staff, against little old me. I raised my concerns that my son knows right from worng but can not put it into practice (anything from crossing a road safely to hurting someone because they hurt him). And hey presto, today they call me and say he has hit a child without any reason and 2 other children (6 yrs old) confirm this (despite they are best friends with the victim). I know my son and yes he will react if someone upsets or hurts him, but he has never just gone up and hit someone/something.
It almost feels that when I voiced my concerns about safety and physical violence, they turn them against me and the very next day all of a sudden (after 2 years at the school with no incidents of this kind) my concerns are met and my son is being punished for it. I really feel like they are looking to exclude him or get social services involved and I am petrefied.
Does anyone else have similar stories which they can share and any outcomes or suggestions?
