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Distruction from anxiety

purplestar

Hi

Can anyone give me some advice on dealing with a teenager who breaks things from frustration.  This is happening more and more and I am worrying where it will end.  Today he has ripped the keys from the keyboard off the laptop because of slow wi-fi connection.  It is becoming an everyday occurance for house hold items to be smashed and thrown.  It is difficult to 'discipline' as this causes further stress for him.

 

son is 14 and diagnoised last week with aspergers, - this is my first post

thanks

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  • Hi

    This is so distressing.  We have been going through similar and I totally agree with longman.  Our son has been showing levels of anger we have not seen before that are destructive and meltdowns frequent due to a specific incident that sent him off the scale.

    We are making some progress now he is finally able to talk about it a little - a fortnight on but lives the emotion and frustration all over again albeit without the destructive anger.  We have just kept reassuring him we love him, we are there for him and so on and giving him lots of quiet time to open up when he is ready and also trying to provide distractions. 

    Our laptop is in the PC shop for repair.... he thumped it and when he had calmed a little we pretended to start it up and realise it was broken.  We had removed a fuse!  He is having a few weeks away from it ...while it is repaired (as far as he knows).  He uses the games on the internet to shield himself from the stress but it is still there and like your son, when there is a blip in wifi or he has to come off it sparks more frustration and anger outburst.

    Really tough and draining, but for our son, it is always other issues that have built up to an unmanageable level for him that results in an outburst later.  This latest spell has been the hardest yet but I completely understand his reaction to the incident which was very wrong.

    Good luck, stay strong

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  • Hi

    This is so distressing.  We have been going through similar and I totally agree with longman.  Our son has been showing levels of anger we have not seen before that are destructive and meltdowns frequent due to a specific incident that sent him off the scale.

    We are making some progress now he is finally able to talk about it a little - a fortnight on but lives the emotion and frustration all over again albeit without the destructive anger.  We have just kept reassuring him we love him, we are there for him and so on and giving him lots of quiet time to open up when he is ready and also trying to provide distractions. 

    Our laptop is in the PC shop for repair.... he thumped it and when he had calmed a little we pretended to start it up and realise it was broken.  We had removed a fuse!  He is having a few weeks away from it ...while it is repaired (as far as he knows).  He uses the games on the internet to shield himself from the stress but it is still there and like your son, when there is a blip in wifi or he has to come off it sparks more frustration and anger outburst.

    Really tough and draining, but for our son, it is always other issues that have built up to an unmanageable level for him that results in an outburst later.  This latest spell has been the hardest yet but I completely understand his reaction to the incident which was very wrong.

    Good luck, stay strong

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