Am I just imagining theres an issue

Hi all, my daughter is just over a year old and displays odd behaviours of which ive been concerned about for months. My daughter has never taken well to strangers, or even people that she sees weekly. Everytime we see my dad, or most of the time when people even just make eye sontact with her, she starts screaming like shes pain, and s her hair so hard, she sometimes pulls clumps out. She also does this when shes in a new place, seems upset or tired. She sleeps terribly and sometimes wakes 3,4, 5 times a night. She refused affection from anyone except me, shes only just in the last month started letting her dad give her occasional cuddles but if her brother goes to hug her she forces him away or screams. She will interact with smaller children sometimes but dislike pretty much all adults and most children. She doesn't ever laugh at anyone else, unless its just me and her, she smiles very little. I've tried to talk to the gp and the health visitor but neither seem to think theres really an issue, am I making a meal out of nothing or should I go back to the gp/hv? any help is greatly appreciated. im not all trying to say my daughter may be on the spectrum, im just trying to work out, whats going on x

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  • Hi Tara

    That sounds really upsetting. Did you have any similar issues with her brother? any similar difficulties with you or your partner as babies/children? My son has atypical aspergers and was a really difficult baby. He never slept well at all and still doesn't. However he was always kind of the opposite to your daughter about people - he wasn't really bothered who held him, although he did push everyone away even when he was tiny.

    Have you tried filming these meltdowns (when she pulls her hair out for example) to actually show to the hv or GP?I've had to film meltdowns myself as it's often the only way to demonstrate how serious these are to professionals. 

    Any type of diagnosis or identification is so hard to get, especially with a preschool age child. one thing I would recommend is looking up any carers support groups near you, and local NAS branches. You don't need the elusive diagnosis to access these, and meeting other parents in person can be so helpful. 

    Good luck. x

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  • Hi Tara

    That sounds really upsetting. Did you have any similar issues with her brother? any similar difficulties with you or your partner as babies/children? My son has atypical aspergers and was a really difficult baby. He never slept well at all and still doesn't. However he was always kind of the opposite to your daughter about people - he wasn't really bothered who held him, although he did push everyone away even when he was tiny.

    Have you tried filming these meltdowns (when she pulls her hair out for example) to actually show to the hv or GP?I've had to film meltdowns myself as it's often the only way to demonstrate how serious these are to professionals. 

    Any type of diagnosis or identification is so hard to get, especially with a preschool age child. one thing I would recommend is looking up any carers support groups near you, and local NAS branches. You don't need the elusive diagnosis to access these, and meeting other parents in person can be so helpful. 

    Good luck. x

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