My son is 9 and was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome when he was 7.
He is achieving academically and masks his anxieties at school. However he finds the school environment incredibly stressful and melts down once home.
Things have come to a head since starting Year 5 and he's started refusing to go to school and I've literally had to drag him in, on a few occasions he's run straight back out the cloakroom, luckily only got as far as me in the playground and I've had to take him back in.
At home the violence has ramped up and he's also been running out the house, he has no regards to safety when he does this and will run across roads without looking.
They have daily scores where each child puts a number of how they're feeling. 10 being the happiest. He regularly puts 1 or 2, never higher than a 5 all term.
Once in school they say he's "fine" ie he causes them no bother.
We've had a meeting to discuss things with the senco and sen ta. We've now got a few things in place such as being dropped off and picked up from the school office, having a mp3 player to drown out the noise of the other children and being able to work outside the classroom if needed. I've been told though that he can't do that forever and has to get used to being in the classroom environment.
They say the Ed Psych won't see him as he's academically achieving and it "doesn't effect his education" likewise they won't get the Inclusion Support people in. I've been told in no uncertain terms that we've no chance of getting an EHCP.
We're waiting for a Cahms appointment.
Has anyone any advice please?
My belief is that he needs to be in a school with very small classes where they are tailored to his needs. My fear is how he will cope in secondary school as they're so much bigger and I feel he'll just not manage at all.
