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Daughter on the spectrum and legal matters

Stan

This is rather personal but i am hoping to get some advice. I am currently undergoing a child arrangements order so i can see my non verbal Autistic daughter. The consultant who diagnosed her is suggesting that because i live in Manchester and my daugher lives in Hereford that she can travel providing she is shown photos of where she will be staying. The problem with this is she doesnt like to interact with people especialy if you are trying to show her something no matter how eye catching the photos are. trying to convince the courts that every child is different and the best approach would be to let the parent reach an educated decision on whats best for her is becoming so difficult please help.

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    Anonymous said:

    Of course we're not saying the Stan is one of those bad parents

    No, sorry if my post suggested that. I am also very aware that most 'bad' parents are not aware of their parenting skills and that they are not deliberately bad so there wouldn't be any blame to be attached to this. In fact, I was blissfully unaware of my autism when I was bringing up my kids, if I had had more self awareness at that time then it would have gone a lot more smoothly. I don't beat myself up about this though, I don't blame myself for not knowing what I didn't know.

    It is a bit like driving. Most people think that they are better drivers than average but actually most people are pretty average and it is the really bad drivers who are blissfully unaware of how bad they appear to other people.

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    Anonymous said:

    Of course we're not saying the Stan is one of those bad parents

    No, sorry if my post suggested that. I am also very aware that most 'bad' parents are not aware of their parenting skills and that they are not deliberately bad so there wouldn't be any blame to be attached to this. In fact, I was blissfully unaware of my autism when I was bringing up my kids, if I had had more self awareness at that time then it would have gone a lot more smoothly. I don't beat myself up about this though, I don't blame myself for not knowing what I didn't know.

    It is a bit like driving. Most people think that they are better drivers than average but actually most people are pretty average and it is the really bad drivers who are blissfully unaware of how bad they appear to other people.

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