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jrandall10

Hi everyone. Our daughter is almost 9, she has asd and spd. Playing is a major topic of conversation which leads to tears, arguments and her playing for five minutes. She says she wants to play more but struggles so I try to help her. If I play with her she looses the plot, if we have someone round to play she can't handle it. For the last two years I've brought toys, sensory things, made fidget boards all of which she has wanted me too but it makes no difference. She saves up money n buys teddies as their her thing which is fine but she pleaded with me for a pushchair last Christmas which I had to buy an expensive one as she's very tall for her age but she's now decided she doesn't want it anymore for reasons she can't explain accept that she doesn't like people staring at her which I said let them stare but she hates it so as heartbroken as I am we are selling it. I know she is who she is n I can't change her but is it wrong I want to help her or should I leave her to it even if she is asking for help xxx

  • Hello there

    I am new to this forum and just saw your post.  I really felt for you and your daughter in this situation.  My daughter is 19 now, but when she was younger she wanted to have friends to play with, but when I invited them round she often just played by herself on the computer whilst myself and her sister tried to entertain her guest! Its a shame about the pushchair...is there a cheap one she couldjust have in the house? Are teddies the thing she is especially interested in? Sometimes if you start with something she is a bit interested in and try and extend it, maybe showing her care bears films, this can expand her interests.

    Even at 19 my daughter still likes Bratz dolls and sometimes watches Barney and these things relax her. She knows now that other people would find this strange so she keeps it private, but I think she needs them to relax her sometimes. At other times she does more age appropriate things.

    It sounds like you are doing everything you can to help her.  It is really worth the effort as my daughter has come so far since she was that age, doing things I could never have expected her to.

    Take care.