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Assault charges and children with ASD

Hellsbells

Hi there.

Does anyone have experience of their child being charged with assault because they've hit or kicked a teacher?

My 10 year old son is diagnosed with Aspergers and finds school difficult at times. Mostly the school have worked well with us, but this week he got upset over a trivial matter - which resulted in him completely blowing up and kicking his teacher. We were told afterwards that if this happened again, the police would be involved and he'd be charged with assault.

I think this was done to try and scare my son (and me) to improve his behaviour - which shows a lack of understanding of his condition. He knows when he's done wrong, but isn't able to control his behaviour well enough to stop himself at the time. My husband and I tear our hair out trying to work with himi to help him with his behaviour and the last thing we want is him hurting people.

I know though, that this is not an empty threat from the school. They recently charged another pupil with assault for something similar - this child is currently being assessed for ASD.

Any help or ideas gratefully received.

Thank you!

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  • I'm 21 years old and I'm a autistic student at uni. Today I had a major incident with my flatmate in which ended up me attacking him. It started off the night before him having ago at me for being untidy which really wound me up because its been a really hard year living on my own for the first time. I showed my parents the messages and they said ignore but i was already wound up and decided to move out the morning after with the help of my parents. 

    Whilst my parents were in my room I went to the kitchen where he comfronted me alone, I told him I didn't want to talk but then got between and the door and when I tried to open it he shut so feeling threaned and overwhelmed I attacked him even though I didn't intend to. My parents came in quickly and stopped the fight but before they explain i locked myself in my room and selfharmed for the first time in two years. 

    My parents explained to him my circumstances and when I eventually calmed down he made peace and he said there was no need to get the police involed. 

    However this has made me worry because I've never attacked anyone out of my family before and never thought I would. I'm scared that one day something like this may happen again but next time the police will be called and I don't know legally what my options will be. I also lost of DLA payments a few months ago so I'm worried that will make them think I'm ok. 

    Please if anyone has any helpful adivce I would greatly need it.

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  • I'm 21 years old and I'm a autistic student at uni. Today I had a major incident with my flatmate in which ended up me attacking him. It started off the night before him having ago at me for being untidy which really wound me up because its been a really hard year living on my own for the first time. I showed my parents the messages and they said ignore but i was already wound up and decided to move out the morning after with the help of my parents. 

    Whilst my parents were in my room I went to the kitchen where he comfronted me alone, I told him I didn't want to talk but then got between and the door and when I tried to open it he shut so feeling threaned and overwhelmed I attacked him even though I didn't intend to. My parents came in quickly and stopped the fight but before they explain i locked myself in my room and selfharmed for the first time in two years. 

    My parents explained to him my circumstances and when I eventually calmed down he made peace and he said there was no need to get the police involed. 

    However this has made me worry because I've never attacked anyone out of my family before and never thought I would. I'm scared that one day something like this may happen again but next time the police will be called and I don't know legally what my options will be. I also lost of DLA payments a few months ago so I'm worried that will make them think I'm ok. 

    Please if anyone has any helpful adivce I would greatly need it.

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