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Assault charges and children with ASD

Hellsbells

Hi there.

Does anyone have experience of their child being charged with assault because they've hit or kicked a teacher?

My 10 year old son is diagnosed with Aspergers and finds school difficult at times. Mostly the school have worked well with us, but this week he got upset over a trivial matter - which resulted in him completely blowing up and kicking his teacher. We were told afterwards that if this happened again, the police would be involved and he'd be charged with assault.

I think this was done to try and scare my son (and me) to improve his behaviour - which shows a lack of understanding of his condition. He knows when he's done wrong, but isn't able to control his behaviour well enough to stop himself at the time. My husband and I tear our hair out trying to work with himi to help him with his behaviour and the last thing we want is him hurting people.

I know though, that this is not an empty threat from the school. They recently charged another pupil with assault for something similar - this child is currently being assessed for ASD.

Any help or ideas gratefully received.

Thank you!

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  • Hi Longman.

    This is all really useful stuff. I think you're right that a lot of it is about the build up. He had another run in at school today, refusing to go to assembly and later said that 1 kid who he doesn't get on with, had been really annoying him.

    I also think he does, as you said, have a really strong sense of injustice. Because of who he is, he doesn't get away with anything, whereas the other kids will flick each other regularly, but won't get caught out or if they do, told off in the same way. I can imagine his sense of outrage at his scarf being taken away when he and his friends had perhaps spent half of lunch time doing just this outside the school.

    We need to sit down with the school asap and thrash some of these things out as they're just not dealing with it at all well. In fact they're now just calling us in to deal with is, which is very stressful and not a little annoying!

    Thanks for your thoughts.

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  • Hi Longman.

    This is all really useful stuff. I think you're right that a lot of it is about the build up. He had another run in at school today, refusing to go to assembly and later said that 1 kid who he doesn't get on with, had been really annoying him.

    I also think he does, as you said, have a really strong sense of injustice. Because of who he is, he doesn't get away with anything, whereas the other kids will flick each other regularly, but won't get caught out or if they do, told off in the same way. I can imagine his sense of outrage at his scarf being taken away when he and his friends had perhaps spent half of lunch time doing just this outside the school.

    We need to sit down with the school asap and thrash some of these things out as they're just not dealing with it at all well. In fact they're now just calling us in to deal with is, which is very stressful and not a little annoying!

    Thanks for your thoughts.

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