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Assault charges and children with ASD

Hellsbells

Hi there.

Does anyone have experience of their child being charged with assault because they've hit or kicked a teacher?

My 10 year old son is diagnosed with Aspergers and finds school difficult at times. Mostly the school have worked well with us, but this week he got upset over a trivial matter - which resulted in him completely blowing up and kicking his teacher. We were told afterwards that if this happened again, the police would be involved and he'd be charged with assault.

I think this was done to try and scare my son (and me) to improve his behaviour - which shows a lack of understanding of his condition. He knows when he's done wrong, but isn't able to control his behaviour well enough to stop himself at the time. My husband and I tear our hair out trying to work with himi to help him with his behaviour and the last thing we want is him hurting people.

I know though, that this is not an empty threat from the school. They recently charged another pupil with assault for something similar - this child is currently being assessed for ASD.

Any help or ideas gratefully received.

Thank you!

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  • There is a possibility that they have flicked their scarves at him earlier, and possibly more substantially/for longer, without intervention by teachers, or simply out of sight of teachers.

    I remember any attempt to retaliate (I was always tall for my age - not at all physically weak) I was reprimanded and told to pick of people my own size. Where were the teachers when I was the victim?

    But then in those days school was about toughening up - the notion of any kind of disability was just being a softie.

    I do wonder how far a sense of injustice plays a part. Your son may have been doing no-more than other kids did to him, just they were savvy and did it when teacher wasn't looking.

    I do feel it is important to look at contributing factors over a longer time scale rather than trying to understand the lack of an immediate cause. Tiredness and stress build up are amongst those factors. But what his peers do to him, and how observant the teachers are when it happens, is also important.

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  • There is a possibility that they have flicked their scarves at him earlier, and possibly more substantially/for longer, without intervention by teachers, or simply out of sight of teachers.

    I remember any attempt to retaliate (I was always tall for my age - not at all physically weak) I was reprimanded and told to pick of people my own size. Where were the teachers when I was the victim?

    But then in those days school was about toughening up - the notion of any kind of disability was just being a softie.

    I do wonder how far a sense of injustice plays a part. Your son may have been doing no-more than other kids did to him, just they were savvy and did it when teacher wasn't looking.

    I do feel it is important to look at contributing factors over a longer time scale rather than trying to understand the lack of an immediate cause. Tiredness and stress build up are amongst those factors. But what his peers do to him, and how observant the teachers are when it happens, is also important.

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