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Assault charges and children with ASD

Hellsbells

Hi there.

Does anyone have experience of their child being charged with assault because they've hit or kicked a teacher?

My 10 year old son is diagnosed with Aspergers and finds school difficult at times. Mostly the school have worked well with us, but this week he got upset over a trivial matter - which resulted in him completely blowing up and kicking his teacher. We were told afterwards that if this happened again, the police would be involved and he'd be charged with assault.

I think this was done to try and scare my son (and me) to improve his behaviour - which shows a lack of understanding of his condition. He knows when he's done wrong, but isn't able to control his behaviour well enough to stop himself at the time. My husband and I tear our hair out trying to work with himi to help him with his behaviour and the last thing we want is him hurting people.

I know though, that this is not an empty threat from the school. They recently charged another pupil with assault for something similar - this child is currently being assessed for ASD.

Any help or ideas gratefully received.

Thank you!

Parents

  • Thanks for the comments.

    Yes, I've already called the helpline, so hopefully someone there may also be able to help. It is very worrying, partly because, as Longman says, I'm not there, so I don't see what goes on around the incidents.

    This particular one was my son being a pest and flicking kids with his scarf when they were waiting to leave the classroom at the end of the day. He didn't stop when asked, so the teacher took the scarf off him - not something I would have done - which provoked the reaction. This could have been caused by all kinds of things though - tiredness at the end of the day; him feeling it was unfair to have it removed - he sees things as very black & white and it's quite possible he was doing it to deliberately miss them, in which case to him being told off would be outrageous. It's so difficult to know!

    We intend to request a meeting to discuss how she deals with annoying behaviour to stop it getting out of hand.

    I'll also have a look at the suggested links to see if there are any tips.

    Thanks again!

    Hellsbells

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  • Thanks for the comments.

    Yes, I've already called the helpline, so hopefully someone there may also be able to help. It is very worrying, partly because, as Longman says, I'm not there, so I don't see what goes on around the incidents.

    This particular one was my son being a pest and flicking kids with his scarf when they were waiting to leave the classroom at the end of the day. He didn't stop when asked, so the teacher took the scarf off him - not something I would have done - which provoked the reaction. This could have been caused by all kinds of things though - tiredness at the end of the day; him feeling it was unfair to have it removed - he sees things as very black & white and it's quite possible he was doing it to deliberately miss them, in which case to him being told off would be outrageous. It's so difficult to know!

    We intend to request a meeting to discuss how she deals with annoying behaviour to stop it getting out of hand.

    I'll also have a look at the suggested links to see if there are any tips.

    Thanks again!

    Hellsbells

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