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Assault charges and children with ASD

Hellsbells

Hi there.

Does anyone have experience of their child being charged with assault because they've hit or kicked a teacher?

My 10 year old son is diagnosed with Aspergers and finds school difficult at times. Mostly the school have worked well with us, but this week he got upset over a trivial matter - which resulted in him completely blowing up and kicking his teacher. We were told afterwards that if this happened again, the police would be involved and he'd be charged with assault.

I think this was done to try and scare my son (and me) to improve his behaviour - which shows a lack of understanding of his condition. He knows when he's done wrong, but isn't able to control his behaviour well enough to stop himself at the time. My husband and I tear our hair out trying to work with himi to help him with his behaviour and the last thing we want is him hurting people.

I know though, that this is not an empty threat from the school. They recently charged another pupil with assault for something similar - this child is currently being assessed for ASD.

Any help or ideas gratefully received.

Thank you!

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  • It might be useful to find out more about the circumstances in which this happened.

    For example was the teacher out of the class immediately before leaving him with his peers, or had the class just started and something could have happened on the way to the class or outside the classroom.

    What sorts of things were happening to him over several hours before the incident took place? Surely the school has looked into the matter and to be fair on him looked at contributing factors? So they must be able to provide some answers.

    Was the teacher being confrontational, forcing eye contact or in too close physical proximity?

    Please excuse my drawing on my own experience (decades ago) to clarify why I'm asking, but its the best way I can explain it. I haven't been much affected by melt-down except when I was at school, and simply because my peers worked out how to trigger one, and how to time it. I am affected by sudden noise or movement, or complex noise or movement, especially just within the periphery of vision.  My peers seemed to able to get me nearly at melt down so they got the desired response when a teacher was present. I would seem to break down for no obvious reason.

    If your son is being teased or manipulated by peers he could be reacting to a longer "train" of contributory events. Also teachers should be aware of the sensitivity issues for someone with AS, and use sensible tactics.

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  • It might be useful to find out more about the circumstances in which this happened.

    For example was the teacher out of the class immediately before leaving him with his peers, or had the class just started and something could have happened on the way to the class or outside the classroom.

    What sorts of things were happening to him over several hours before the incident took place? Surely the school has looked into the matter and to be fair on him looked at contributing factors? So they must be able to provide some answers.

    Was the teacher being confrontational, forcing eye contact or in too close physical proximity?

    Please excuse my drawing on my own experience (decades ago) to clarify why I'm asking, but its the best way I can explain it. I haven't been much affected by melt-down except when I was at school, and simply because my peers worked out how to trigger one, and how to time it. I am affected by sudden noise or movement, or complex noise or movement, especially just within the periphery of vision.  My peers seemed to able to get me nearly at melt down so they got the desired response when a teacher was present. I would seem to break down for no obvious reason.

    If your son is being teased or manipulated by peers he could be reacting to a longer "train" of contributory events. Also teachers should be aware of the sensitivity issues for someone with AS, and use sensible tactics.

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