Published on 12, July, 2020
my son will be 4 in march, hes autistic , was diagnoised last year, their was a incident that happened at nursery, were my son pulled the teachers hair, then the following day he refused to get dressed, this has been going on now for 5mths, he will not even go out side, he will stay in the one room all day, and now he refusing to get a bath, or have his hair washed or even brush his teeth, ive been having proffesoial help 3 times a week for 4mths, to top things off hes loosing skills aswell, hes been offered a place in a special school. i cant get him their he wont get dressed, p lease im very desprate for help
teardrops said:to top things off i had a caps meeting to see if i could get other pro help, it upset me so much becouse the local support team all they did was pull my son down, and said has its my responsiblity to get my son dressed, and cleaned, nothing good come from the meeting,i was so angry as the other proffesinals who are invovled with my son, dident even stick up for me, and after they said it was a very unfair meeting,i dident go their to have my son pulled down i went their as i was told i would get extra support and help, my health visitor pursecuted me for having the heating on, omg its the middle of winter my sons running around naked and i get pulled down for having the heating on, i understand if it was off, she would have something to maon about,i refused to have another meeting with them, its upsetting having to come to turms that my sons autistic, it still hasent sunk in, without having other people trying to run him down, we all have are own problems and getting through the day is a big achevment, some of thes prof s dont realise what you go through,
to top things off i had a caps meeting to see if i could get other pro help, it upset me so much becouse the local support team all they did was pull my son down, and said has
its my responsiblity to get my son dressed, and cleaned, nothing good come from the meeting,i was so angry as the other proffesinals who are invovled with my son, dident even stick up for me, and after they said it was a very unfair meeting,
i dident go their to have my son pulled down i went their as i was told i would get extra support and help, my health visitor pursecuted me for having the heating on, omg its the middle of winter my sons running around naked and i get pulled down for having the heating on, i understand if it was off, she would have something to maon about,
i refused to have another meeting with them, its upsetting having to come to turms that my sons autistic, it still hasent sunk in, without having other people trying to run him down, we all have are own problems and getting through the day is a big achevment, some of thes prof s dont realise what you go through,
this angerd me so much, i am disgusted, but unfortunately i am NOT surprised, ignorance is something a lot of these supposed 'supportive' systems have, as they tend to hire people who are not fit for the job instead of people with experience or good manner for the people they are caring for
i would go to another meeting, and make it clear you are not happy with the way the last one went, that if they do not have a clear understanding of autism or an autistic persons needs could they then bring a person or refer you to a person who does and who will not make the situation worse by adding to your personal stress by accusing you of bad parenting, which is soemthing all parents with autistic children used to be accused of
you do not have to take that kind of treatment and have every right to say what they did, why it is wrong etc
and ask for better from them, and if they cant supply it, they bring someone who can