My son doesn't want to see me

Hi all,

I have a 11 year-old son. He's autistic. Myself & his mum got divorced years ago. There have been hardly any issues with my ex.

It hasn't been easy seeing my son as he isn't keen on moving from one house to another but overall things haven't been too bad.

I used to see him nearly every week.  For 10 years I phoned him regularly.  Lately he became more determined he didn't want to see me. This really upset me. 

I'm not perfect but I love him & try to do my best for him. 

I kept having discussions with his mum regarding this through emails & texts. His mum said our son didn't want to see me & that's the end of it.

I tried to persuade her that our son needs our help and that'll be good for him to maintain a good relationship with me.She said he talked to autism lady at school and expressed his feelings. 

She asked me to leave them alone and to come back in 6 months.  I tried to convince her that it would be better if we did something about it now by involving the professionals.

She blocked my number & reported me to the police.

I haven't seen nor spoken to my son for nearly 3 months.  I miss him.

Any suggestions anyone ?

Thank you.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Hi Andy (I hope you haven't used your real name???)

    The first question I would ask is whether you have considered if you and/or your ex are on the autistic spectrum yourselves. Autism is frequently inherited but often unrecognised and undiagnosed autism leads to relationship breakdowns.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Hi Andy (I hope you haven't used your real name???)

    The first question I would ask is whether you have considered if you and/or your ex are on the autistic spectrum yourselves. Autism is frequently inherited but often unrecognised and undiagnosed autism leads to relationship breakdowns.

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