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School report for child with asd

jayneuk1988

hi everyone, I have been having issues with my sons school he is 7 and in year 3 and the issues we have hve been there since he started school. he has been behind his class academically up until year 2 where he had a big spurt and came upto par but is now slipping behind again. the school has always insisted that he doesn't need help and this is where we butt heads as he is struggling a lot since moving to year 3 to the point that he isn't the same child, he is very distressed a lot of the time. now to his school report got last week, the school are ademant that he dosent need help yet it clearly states 7 times (yes a whole 7 times) that he needs adult support when doing his work the school says there is a teaching assistant in the class but they are there to help everyone, it also states he is the model student but on a daily basis we are being told that my son is misbehaving and can't sit still or is not doing work in school he is also missing a great deal of his play times because of this. It also goes on to say that he isn't good at art due to a lack of confidence with colour yet we have recently found out he is color blind and the school fail to see this as a need for a little extra suppor. I am after some advice as what I should do next I'm at a loss and really desperate now. Thanks in advance for reading this 

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    Butting heads is the normal way that someone with autism might try to get things done. At least this is my experience before I was diagnosed! In hindsight I have been at odds with authority since my school days and only had to seek diagnosis when the confrontations were tending to involve people (not me!) throwing things around the office.

    The good news is that if the failure to engage diplomatically is recognised then it is possible to learn to avoid these confrotnations. I have become much more relaxed and domesticated in my dealings with the world since I recognised my problems.

    It is quite possible that your adoption may have happened because one or both of your parents were on the spectrum and they failed to lead orderly unchaotic lives. Family break up is very common with undiagnosed autism. Again, I think that this is an opportunity to break some good news. If the autism is recognised then it is quite possible to break this cycle that would otherwise repeat over and over. My own family history is distinctly affected by autism but I can now see how it can be recognised and the next generation can be guided away from the pitfalls of the condition. What has happened is in the past and should not be regretted or the subject of blame - this is a newly recognised condition that is actually very hard to spot and diagnose. I have been living an undiagnosed life for 56 years but am looking forward to some more settled years in the knowledge of my diagnosis :-)

  • When I say butting heads I mean that I'm trying my hardest to get help and they just shoot me down instantly hope this helps. And no your not being offensive at all I think I may be on the spectrum but when I went to try and get answers I was passed from pillar to post and told that there was no point in perusing this as it won't help me and j don't know my family history as I was adopted so don't know if it goes back further 

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    Butting heads is not a great way to get help! My first question is a question that I seem to ask a lot on the forum so please don't be offended and it doesn't mean anything sinister. Is anyone else in the family on the spectrum too? Autism runs in families and is often recognised in older generations - I managed to avoid any recognition of my tendencies for 56 years!