Inappropriate messaging

My eldest is 19... he was initially diagnosed, aged about 6, with MLD (Moderate Learning Difficulties) ... he was given a statement & had much support thru mainstream junior & high school... he is now in his 3rd yr at a small local college... via college & our doctor, we had him re-assessed & he was diagnosed with Autism... he is a loving, helpful, caring boy, he struggles to read/spell & he struggles with numbers ie time & money... he is immature & v trusting so not aware of dangers or strangers.... he loves to garden, wash & clean the car, help with chores & he had some driving lessons... when he was younger he attended some after school clubs, a youth club, beavers, cubs, but didnt last at scouts long as he didnt like it... i have a son 15 & a daughter 12.... my son is a v boyish boy & quite hyper - query ADHD - but as he conforms in school it was dismissed... one minute the boys get on, the next they fall out (typical brothers) eldest finds his brother too much at times.... i split with eldests dad when eldest was 3... i split with son & daughters dad about 6yr ago... i have a boyfriend but we dont live together yet... he has a 16yr old son, who can be loud & has a similar personality to my son... my eldest finds it difficult to be around him.... & he doesnt understand eldest... anyway my eldest doesnt socialise much... when he goes to his dads house, his dads fiance has 3 kids aged 21,19 & 16.... sometimes they have friends round or they go out & my eldest joins in.... he messages friends of both sexes on social media, but it seems he pesters them as often they dont want to talk..... he did have a girlfriend at college, they went bowling, shopping, for a meal & she spent afternoons at my house... she dumped him... he was most upset... they dated again & she dumped him once more... since then he messages girls from his contacts on various social media sites to ask if they will be his girlfriend or send him photos... this has included his older cousin, his ex stepsister & current stepsister... some of their friends & my daughters friends... & just last night, his stepbrothers ex girlfriend (they only split a week ago) despite numerous conversations with him by me & my ex., explaining its not appripriate & how he could get in trouble ... he is still doing this... im lost what else to try?

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  • am confused as to what this post is about. You start with your youngest son diagnosed with autism

    but actually the question is about your oldest son who is 16? and inappropriate messaging with girls etc.  He 16 and in his teens and learning and whilst that don't excuse him at all, some go through that experience.

    It good you are aware what he doing. He will have to learn how to channel his own greed and need. More you restrict the more it go underground.

    I think what you are asking is how do other parents help their sons (and daughters) go through this sexual awareness of themselves and nudity and greed and need and turning something inappropriate into a lesson of good.

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  • am confused as to what this post is about. You start with your youngest son diagnosed with autism

    but actually the question is about your oldest son who is 16? and inappropriate messaging with girls etc.  He 16 and in his teens and learning and whilst that don't excuse him at all, some go through that experience.

    It good you are aware what he doing. He will have to learn how to channel his own greed and need. More you restrict the more it go underground.

    I think what you are asking is how do other parents help their sons (and daughters) go through this sexual awareness of themselves and nudity and greed and need and turning something inappropriate into a lesson of good.

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